So I Think A Black Actress Is Beautiful...But I Have To Be Lying Right?

Actress Bunmi Mojekwu

Fellow UK Blogger Mad News wrote a piece a few days ago about a Twitter 'bee'f between Eastenders actress Bunmi Mojekwu and a Female MC who goes by the name of Amplify Dot on Twitter.

Bunmi's weave is awful...we can't even lie about that. It doesn't do anything for her. Whilst reading the article my mouth dropped down at the King Kong and banana comments by Amplify dot. So much so I had to leave a comment on Mad News.

"Let Us Go, Set Us Free From All This Propaganda & Lies That Your People Try To Teach Us"

Once again, there is more ignorance infiltrating the media about Black women.

According to an ingrate who shall not be named, we are now the most unattractive when it comes to every other race of people on the planet???

I haven't read the article, and I don't intend to as it will serve no purpose other than unnecessary anger....and you know according to everyone "Black women are just angry for no reason" so let's not give them any more ammunition. Nothing worse than an ugly and angry Black woman right??

I can't think of a more fitting 'Blast From the Past' song than Freedom which featured on the 1995 Mario Van Peebles film 'Panther.'

Blast From The Past: She Is...[My Ode to My Women]

One of my favourite blogs written by yours truly from 2008, as an ode to my fellow Black women. [See I'm not all about the cursing, and the overly opinionated side of me all of the time].

It's written about myself, family and friends. You just maybe one of the women it relates to as well.

Enjoy x

Black Women Ain’t Shit!!

So what else is new folks?

Some rapper who is only famous in the Houston area and for dating an ex-Destiny’s Child member who we care less about than Kelly Rowland, doesn’t want us. He’s ignorant when it comes to black women and speaks of his foolish reasons as to why we’re single.

Here we go again!

The Bullshit Gospel According To Slim Thug:

-”Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.”

-”I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it saying, “Y’all gotta go through all that shit [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other shit.”

-”My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the shit that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too. She graduated from Columbia [University] and I like that about her so it’s cool. I’ve dated girls that will buy a $3,000 bag and don’t know how to pay it off on their credit cards. They walk around in these Louis Vuittons and red bottoms but they’re riding around in raggedy cars, so it’s just getting your priorities right.”

-”White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit. Black women need to stand by their man more. Don’t always put the pressure of if I’m fucking with you, you gotta buy me this and that. Black men are the ones that motherfuckers need [but] I think a lot of them need to step it up too. A Black man who gets a little bread will go make it rain in the club and be broke the next day or instead of him going to invest in a business he gonna go buy new jewelry or a new car and still live in the hood. Black peoples’ mentality is real fucked up in general [and] it’s affecting everything.”

- “Black women need to be more genuine and be more 50/50 [but] It should be a fair exchange in a relationship period or eventually somebody is gonna feel like they’re getting fucked over whether it’s the woman or the man. I think that will help Black relationships out a lot.”

Black women are to blame for the oil crisis, global warming, 9/11, why Bush served two terms in office, my train being delayed this morning, why a lot of black men are in prison and one Black woman in particular is to blame for giving birth to an ingrate aka Slim Thug. Yes folks, I’m sure Slim Thugs places the blame on her too for his very reason on being here on this earth and our mothers too for birthing and raising us non-entities.

I read a tweet from @delightfuldiva that I read this morning which said "Slim. Thug. 2 things I never wanted in a man. #movingon" Good one! The last time I checked Slim Thug was single. He isn’t married so whatever he claims to have is not keeping women interested, and whatever woman he’s gushing about can’t be all that great either because he’s using her as a dishwasher, a potential baby maker and not making her anything else. So ladies please don’t trip over this fool. He isn’t anything we want or aspire to want in our rich and prosperous lives. Slim Thug’s Black & White [as he puts it] girlfriend is quiet, cooks, cleans and does all the shit he says but according to Slim it’s her White side doing all of that.

Ladies I’m going to say this, as much as it is annoying and sometimes upsetting when people and TV networks go public about the men lack of Black men and we’re constantly reminded that 42% of us are single, we have to keep the focus on ourselves. Do you hear me…OURSELVES!

Slim Thug does NOT speak for every black man. There are a lot of black men out there that ONLY want a black woman, that love the fact she’s independent, loves the fact that cooking and cleaning are not solely what she’s about, loves her strength and loves her attitude. Remember that!! Also remember there are also men out there of other races who love black women for exactly the same reasons. Stop looking towards black men or any other race of men to validate you. Validate yourself. When you feel good for being you another worthy man will see that and want you for just the way that you are. Some of that also includes being weaveless, possessing a slight attitude, or being slightly louder than our White counterparts. Not all men want docile women, with three feet of weave trailing down their backs, cooking at home with no ambition, balls [not literally] or no damn opinion.

You've probably read my blog or this may be your first time, I’m no-nonsense, don’t take shit, have a mouth on me and can speak for England. That’s only some of who I am, not all of who I am. I’ve only dated Black men and the ones I have, have no problem with any of that part of me at all. I’m still able to be probably all the things Slim Thug hates in a Black woman, namely being independent, doesn’t take his shit and would never dream of doing so. And that’s OK because I don’t want a man that can’t deal with a woman like me and wouldn’t want to. Any man that can deal with a woman who possesses a strong demeanour, character, can see the softer side to her and likes/loves that about her is a strong man himself. Strength is not all about the physical, and you better believe that if you can’t talk to me or deal with me then I can’t respect you. You’re just not strong enough or capable to hang bruh!

You won’t find me generalising ALL Black men and pretty much in a nutshell saying “they ain't shit” either. Only the individuals I will call out. I’m mature enough to know you can’t tar all people with the same brush, it just doesn’t work that way.

The thing that we need to stop doing is getting upset over the things some Black men and others say about us when we wouldn’t even give them a second look in the first place. If you have a man why do you even care? Shouldn’t the way your man thinks and feels about you matter? Shouldn’t the way you feel about you matter? I know that when I wake up in the morning I am not feeling sorry for myself because some jumped up rapper from Houston and other men like him would probably in their lives never date me, because as a Black woman according to him there’s just so much that is wrong, and not enough that is right with me. Well LondonDiva likes LondonDiva and there’s a man out there that likes LondonDiva too. So I’m straight! Fuck Slim Thug!

I had to mention his name only once in a tweet this morning [and really didn’t want to especially on Twitter] and referred to him as a ‘certain rapper.’ Someone asked who I was talking about and had to mention him by name. I didn't want to as just by mentioning his name would contribute to making it a trending topic on Twitter. It puts his name up there when it doesn’t need to be. From Twitter comes more publicity and articles written about him by top bloggers with readers in the thousands. He’s getting free publicity off of you when you’re mad at him and saying he’s not relevant. Well congratulations he became extremely relevant over your rants on Twitter last night. As a result of his ignorance you’ve helped propel a man to some kind of status where people actually now know his name. I wasn’t even going to bother blog about him, but after seeing all the Slim Thug related tweets mentioning his name, writing this blog today isn’t really going to make much of a difference now is it? So thought why the dam hell not.

For white women who think this maybe some kind of compliment, please think again. What men like Slim Thug are saying in why they prefer you over us is because you’re more than happy to cook, clean, be quiet and do what they say. That’s about it. Nothing to get really happy over and anyone with some sense would see the reasons for his preferences are actually insulting towards you too. Another reason could be is that he wants his kids to have lighter skin and that ignorant term ‘good hair.’ Close your mouth and stop looking shocked, yeah I said it. Some Black men have their own colour issues too about being dark skinned or Black period, and ‘don’t want no dark skinned babies with a black woman.’ They’re just not vocal about it like Black women are and have been about ‘colour issues.’ But that's a whole 'nother blog.

What gets me more than anything is this man bitch came from a Black woman and doesn’t think highly of them in anyway at all. What kind of fool-fool woman raised another fool like this? Men and women with sons, raise them with some damn sense please so we can stop this ignorant cycle, and women stop saying “Black men ain't shit” just because a few did you wrong. Ass holes come in ALL races. "It ain’t always right on the white side", there are plenty of hard done by white women that can attest to that. White men are not the prize. Black men are not the prize. A good great man is the prize. Funny how I know a ton of black women [myself included] who from birth who have had nothing to do with their biological father, will still rep for black men, still date black men and still want to marry a black man. Oh but don’t get it twisted now, these same smart women are also open to other men as well, Black men are simply their first, but not ONLY choice. Get some black men raised by black women and according to them “we ain't shit!” The first man to shit on us that shouldn't, are some of our own fathers, and these same black women still want black men. Then you have fools like him talking shit about "we need to be down for a black man" Ain't nothing more loyal than a sista. We do some things for our fellow black man, that they would never dare dream do for us. 

Looking at where this was extracted it came from VIBE magazine. Whoever included this in the interview knew exactly what they were doing and the response it would create. Does the magazine have a flagging readership? Is this the only way it could gain a little publicity and notoriety? Why are they using their magazine as a platform for this fool to spout out his ignorance? Then again looking at a magazine [that I stopped reading faithfully years ago] and the recent cover of Nicki Minaj nude but painted it doesn’t seem to be a publication that really holds black women in high regards to cover her ass up!

This fool was born of a Black woman, lives in a country run by a black man married a beautiful educated, strong black women by his side, who has two beautiful daughters and this man…..

Look…marry who you wanna marry, date who you wanna date…just STOP putting us down as reasons for your choices.

On another note...

I started a FB group which I urge you to join called ‘Support Black’, you can read all about it on the info page.

If you had time to tweet or write about Slim Thug on Facebook, then you have time to click TWICE and ‘Support Black’. The SAD state of affairs is it was RT on Twitter 3 or 4 times in 24 hours with about 6 tweets from myself with the link in it. When there is an ignorant trending topic on my timeline about Black people there are hoards of Black people participating in it over and over for most of their damn evening. Get some of those same people to support something positive….NOTHING! Not even a RT! But maybe some of you feel some way with the words ‘support’ and ‘black’ together on your timeline for fear of seeming maybe ‘a little too Black’ or ‘revolutionary’ to the non-Black people who follow you for fear of offending them.

I started this group because I don’t believe Black people support one another and lend a helping hand in trying to get on the ladder and staying there without falling off. If that offends you then:

(a) you aren't a realist, because we don't support each other like we should.

(b) you’re heavily in denial.

(c) you’re probably one of the very people I'm talking about.

Number 1 click HERE

Number 2 click ‘Like’ button

As I was reading other Black Facebook groups I came across this group which is fitting for this topic today it’s about a documentary film called “Happily Ever After” about positive Black marriages.

Now that’s what deserves publicity and to be talked about!

So let Slim thug be a slim thug and continue to love [in his warped way], like and adore the white side of his girlfriend, because the black side isn’t woman enough for him. I am the same person today as I was yesterday, as are you. Men like him have no part in our being, our existence or our survival. He’s not that powerful and never will be.

Claudia Schiffer As A Black Woman With An Afro

What is the point of this? Art? A piss take? Embracing black beauty? Her diversity as a model?

Am I outraged by it? No. Am I pissed off by it? Not really.

I see Claudia is also channelling her inner Asian side too. Between her and Karl Lagerfeld they'll probably come up with the art excuse reason for the purpose of these images.

I'm not going to jump up and scream racism. It's not like she's pictured with a fro on a plantation or anything. Without being biased and after looking at the pics, several times over she looks the best as a Black woman.

The Sistas Dating This Man Need To Come Forward!

You know how it goes on You Tube. Watching one thing and then bam you are 12,875 subject matters away from what you started viewing in the first place???? Well today it wasn't like that. I was actually watching some videos on interracial dating. I like to do stuff like this from time to time and hear the opinions of other people on different subject matters.

Anyway forget all that...I came across this video of a white man doing a You Tube video of why he prefers to date Black women.

Let me just say this I'm not of these black women that get all happy like Ren and Stimpy because men of other races find us attractive, nor do I see the point in validating your reason for dating outside your race either with a You Tube video...but here's one of them.

My question is this.

WHO.IN.THE.HELL.SISTAH.OF.A.BLACK.WOMAN.IS.DATING.THIS.MAN?

If you've dated him, or know a sistah that has, hit me up via e-mail.

You Tube comments are the best logitech160 left the following "No race prefer you dude." I cannot front, what logitech160 said was exactly on my mind.

Black women do you know of any women in your circle who would date him? Channing Tatum, Paul Walker, Brad Pitt [minus the homeless look] yes I can see that, but ol' dude up in the video???

My Take On The Whole John Mayer Thing!

N.B. I don't listen to his music, I couldn't even name one of his songs and don't even know what his singing voice sounds like. 

My fellow people NEVER cease to amaze me. NEVER.

So John Mayer’s penis is the only part of him that doesn’t want a black woman. Neither does Tiger Woods. GET.OVER.IT!!!

I skimmed through it, shrugged and thought "is that it? I know of black women that have said far worse about black men."

*Not shocked. Not surprised. Don’t really care to be honest*

Getting all mad over a dude a ton of you probably didn’t find attractive or have the chance of dating, yet want him to be attracted to you. So all of Tiger’s jump off’s should have been black as he himself is part black, and John Mayer should want to sleep with black woman being a white man??? Everybody is supposed to want us just because we’re black women?

NEWSFLASH: NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE DESIRABLE OR DESIRED!

I’ve spoken to many black women who are quick to point out many physical and psychological reasons as to why they could never get with a white, Indian or Chinese man, but have no problems thinking that some of them are fine. Ever think white men think the same thing about us? There are a lot of black women whose lips [both of them] will never come into contact with a white man and a lot of the reasons, some could say are racist.

So what’s the damn difference?

John Mayer, like me has a preference. He said the N word, and it seems that there won’t be a time in the near distant future of him pro-creating or even be practising the art of pro-creation with a black woman. Someone needs to tell these same women that are getting mad at this to actually be made aware that some black men also use the N word and have no desire to be with black women either. Then there are some of those men who will break it down even further that will want black women but not want them to be too dark and have a certain hair type. If you’re gonna have a problem with Mayer, have a problem with all of them! They’re no different.

It’s amazing what we let ‘our fellow men’ in the entertainment industry get away with when it comes to disrespecting us, yet get all up in arms over a white musician saying x, y and z.

You know what John C Mayer, stay dating the likes of Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Aniston and stick to your preference of not wanting to be with a black woman. I’d much rather that, than continue to see black women constantly disrespected by our own in music videos and in lyrics where the majority buying demographic of hip-hop are young white males. Way to go fellas!!!! Back in the day black women were beaten and raped in front of black men by whites. Fast forward to 2010 where we have rights, control and power and you choose to name call, disrespect and objectify black women publicly in front of white people.

Want us, nurture us, love us and respect us, or leave us well and truly alone! And that goes for ANY man of ANY race!

From looking at my Twitter timeline yesterday and the comments surrounding this, I noticed something very interesting. A majority of those that weren’t fazed were single black women. People chat enough of their business for you to know who is single, married or in a relationship. Was this a shock to the system of many a single sistah?

“Oh no one less man out on the planet finds us desirable. What if he is an example of the minds of many? It’s hard enough for me to find a decent and good black man already to the point where I was thinking about going over to the other side, and now John Mayer says this? I’m doomed!” We’re nice to look at, but that’s as far as it goes? I thought everyone wanted us!”-signed crazy single black woman

Black women please get over yourselves. John Mayer doesn’t want you just as much as you don’t want to get with a dude who has the last name Patel or Singh.

Someone made a valid point yesterday. A lot of black women say [and I’ve heard this a lot] that white men only want us for sex. Looking at the statistics of single mothers left to raise the BLACK babies ALONE what is that saying about black men?

On one hand you have John Mayer who doesn’t want any black coochie as his penis is a white supremacist. On the other hand you have the likes of Lil Wayne who wants to '**** every girl in the world', impregnates three black women in less than a year adding to the rising statistics. Neither of these dudes respect or value black women. Let’s just keep it real folks when we choose to get mad about something we already do, have done or think ourselves.

I'm Just So Into You [And It Shows] Black Love

I'm a die hard romantic I love how these black men are so into their women and never afraid to show it.

Ummm no T.I. and Tiny pics here...sorry

I know there are a ton of other black celebs that are happily married/together but these 3 just can't seem to keep their hands off of each other.

I swear sometimes from the body language I'm convinced that Bey and Jigga aren't even married [even though I know they are].

Know The Laws Of The Land!

Right, before I start writing this let me just shed all feeling of bias toward this girl and the case because she's black.

I say this because we as a people have a habit of sympathising with people when we share the same skin tone and heritage. It's normal you feel a sense of loyalty or kinsman ship to your people. If this was a white woman we probably wouldn't be feeling much or would probably say "Oh well, you should know the law before you break it." And go on about our business.

This girl, Samantha Orobator was born in Nigeria, raised and lived in London [South-East like me] in Camberwell. She is 20 years old and currently five months pregnant in a Laos prison awaiting trial, which by if found guilty she will she executed by firing squad.

**Deep breath**

That alone sounds horrendous. The rumours are she conceived from being raped whilst in prison. OK no words about that right there at the moment. If this is the case then what is done about the rapist, probably not a damn thing.

She was arrested 9 months ago from after being in possession of 680g [1 1/2 lbs] of heroin in her luggage. Heroin possession over 500g will land you a mandatory death sentence in Laos.
So how did it get there? I've read one account where she says she was 'forced' to smuggle the drugs and act as a mule. Another account saying she didn't know how it had gotten there.

**LondonDiva's 'oh really?' face**
Force a black woman to do what? Which part and where?

Let's not beat around the friggin bush here people. This girl is 20 years old travelled from Ireland to the Netherlands, to Thailand to Laos and was arrested before she got on her flight back to London. Sounds like the damn money ran out and thought this would be the perfect opportunity to make that money back and fast in London.

Was probably fed a story about the security at the airports being lapse and that they don't have the technology to scan bags like they do in Europe and the USA. Or that no one is going to search her bag once she lands in the UK.

Now I travel and have travelled a lot. Trust me there is NEVER anyone there [in London] when I land in customs waiting to search my bag and I come back with tons to declare and never have declared a thing.

Some people turn the damn fool when money is involved and all of a sudden develop the "it's not going to happen to me" syndrome when doing something illegal. Her family and friends have also come to the forefront to salvage her image by saying she is not the type to get into drugs. I think her family and friends need to shut up, the girl has Heroin in her possession so she either knows bad mind people who were willing to frame her, or she is indeed bad mind herself and was coming back to have this sold on the streets of London. Let's keep it real and not get carried away with the "Samantha was an angel bull crap."

You'll get into being a mule or a dealer for the right price. Not everybody, but a lot of people have their 'price' for doing certain things and for some people this is not 'getting into drugs' this is solely business or a short-term money making opportunity.

I just did a lil bit of research, the street value of Heroin in the UK is between £30-£100 per gram , so my girl had Heroin with a street value between £20,400 [$30.600] and £68,000 [$102,000] in her possession. In a recession those figure looks rather nice, don't they?

Looking at those figures, taking into consideration she's a young girl, possibly a student or not earning a lot of money that this would have been appealing. If she'd have made it though to London safely with that amount on her, she'd only pocket a cut of it but it sure would have been better than £0.00 and trying to get back on your feet financially after travelling across 2 continents let me tell you.

Something tells me Samantha knew what the hell she was doing and wasn't forced to carry a damn thing. Remember, people cry and give it the "it wasn't me" when they get caught, they never think about it getting to the stage of incarceration in a Third World prison and a mandatory death sentence because "it's not going to happen to me."

Now if I was Samantha and I was forced to carry it, I would have dumped that shit in the toilet before I checked in. Whoever 'forced' me to smuggle it is not travelling with me and certainly wouldn't be up on my ass in a cubicle. For me it wouldn't even have gotten to that stage. I'm no nonsense. Just ask me to do anything illegal and I'll counteract that with an illegal move what's also known as GBH on your ass. I'm not going to jail for A-N-Y-B-O-D-Y.

I have this on DVD and this part of the late Bernie Mac's sketch will always stick with me [@ 5 min and 50 seconds] that would be me. Trust!!!

Also what is the point as a dealer in Laos to plant drugs unknowingly on someone anyway? You got £20-60k worth of drugs on someone who has no idea of what to do with it or who to contact on the other end???

Listen if anyone knows more about this smuggling lark then please feel free to educate a sista on how it works cause I'm having a serious WTF & WTH moment here.

Now I'm not here writing about the conditions she's faced in prison and the poor treatment she's suffered in prison and the trial etc, but know this...when you decide you want to travel and venture to other places, make sure you respect the country, its people and their laws. Don't think you can have sex in a Muslim country on the beach because you have no home training or smuggle drugs in the Far East then bawl when you're hit with the death penalty.

I KNOW the Far East has VERY strict laws to do with drugs so when I went last year [and I travelled alone] I made sure I didn't even carry a damn Aspirin or Paracetamol tablet on me. If I had a headache, well it would just have to stay until I got to a Thai or Malaysian pharmacy. I'd rather have a headache from the long flight rather than them fling me in jail thinking I'm carrying some illegal substance and then have the British consulate and Amnesty International fighting my case for my freedom.

Right now I refuse to travel to certain Muslim countries because I don't want to dress a certain way. I respect their rights, laws, religion etc BY NOT VISITING. I wouldn't dare dream of going to Iran without my head covered. It's about R-E-S-P-E-C-T. And until I was in a position where I felt comfortable in going then I'd stay at home or go somewhere where Western 'attire' isn't so much frowned upon.

English people especially, have this disgusting attitude when going abroad that they can act any way they damn well please and that they are somehow above the law. So just because you maybe in a country so poor where you can buy women cheaper than a T-Shirt at Primark and stay at a top notch hotel for peanuts that these people won't fuck with your ass when they find you? Cause I'm telling you the Thai, Malay, Vietnamese will not show you any kind of mercy once you decide to bring some 'harmless' weed or cocaine into their country for personal use. Personal use, "it wasn't me", intent to supply, they don't care and will kill you for it. Drop some gum or spit on a street in Singapore and don't cry when a policeman beats you for it and throws you in prison. You CANNOT even bring gum into Singapore, even if your intentions are to dispose of it properly. An American Michael P Fay in 1994 decided he was going to spray paint in Singapore. His ass got lashed 4 times by the cane.

Don't think because you may come from a 1st world country that you are immediately protected and somehow 'above the little people.' Know the rules and laws of other peoples lands before you go to their country on vacation.

Father in heaven! I wouldn't even want to walk past 680g of Heroin in Laos let alone have it on me, because you know the 1 or 2 particles would blow on my clothes and the damn dog at the airport would be the one to sniff me out.

I really do hope that this girl is able to be released and come back to London. 20, pregnant and facing death. I'm in 2 minds. I don't want the girl to be executed by firing squad, of course I don't [that on one hand], but on the other [London, New York or Laos] Heroin has NEVER been legal you don't even need to know the damn Laos laws to know that just isn't the thing to be carrying on you, and if caught you will face the consequences dependant on where you are found committing the crime.

Just Shut The F*** Up About Damn Swine Flu!

Swine Flu. Swine Flu. Swine Flu. Swine Flu. Swine Flu. Swine Flu. Swine Flu. Swine Flu. Swine Flu.

I had about 2 hours of panic initially when the news first broke after there was a case in London, the next day I slapped myself for acting the fool and bowing down to the media circus of hype, hype and more bloody hype. But how many days on and people are still going on about it?

Seriously...Shut the fuck up please!
If it bothers you that much stay in your damn house and spare us all your drama.

This is NOT a pandemic. This is nothing new. How many different flu viruses have we had over the years? Get sick in Me-hi-co [Mexico] which is slap bang next to big ol Texas and California and you got a damn crisis cause it's affecting people that matter....Western folks. 70,000 deaths, that to me is a pandemic.

So what's the death tally in the USA so far?

ONE

'Scuse me??? Pandemic

Let's check the facts as of May 2nd 2009 shall we.

• Mexico: 101 suspected deaths - 16 confirmed
• US: One death, at least 141 confirmed cases
• New Zealand: 4 confirmed, 12 probable cases
• Canada: 35 confirmed cases
• UK, Spain: 15 confirmed cases
• Germany: 4 confirmed cases
• France, Israel, Costa Rica: 2 confirmed cases
• Netherlands, Switzerland, Austria, Denmark, Hong Kong, South Korea, Italy: 1 confirmed case

So what, not even 200 deaths. And this is a pandemic? People on Twitter and Facebook and the world over acting the damn fool.

There are over 4,000 deaths in the UK each year from Influenza alone!

So where is the government intervention on a mass scale?
Why are these people never featured in the paper in the winter months and the other thousands like them?
Where is the government initiative and drive to put leaflets in the homes of very citizen in the UK to tell them about protecting themselves against the flu, at our expense I must add?

Stick the word swine in front of it and and up pops a new breed of jackass, afraid to leave their damn house or sit in an airport departure lounge in case they pass a Mexican on a connecting flight, or the ones now eating pork. Some folks REALLY need to get educated it seems and use the Internet for research instead of caiding in their conspiracy theory arguments. Yes there are some fools that believe it was whipped up by the government so y'all could put your hands in your pockets spending money making the pharmaceuticals even richer. Some of y'all GOT TIME! Everything [if you want it to be] can be a conspiracy...if your mind really wants to take it there. How about you and your conspiracy theories go away and get a lovely man-made disease together then blame it on the aliens in Area 51.

UK Bloggers, do the flu victims get any airtime in this country when 4,000 of them are dying from flu each year? Because I don't hear anything about it. All I hear is a reminder for old folks to get their flu jabs and that's it.

Death rate extrapolations for USA for Flu: 63,729 per year, 5,310 per month, 1,225 per week, 174 per day, 7 per hour,

See what people fail to realise is this, they seem to forget that even if they did get the damn swine flu, they can actually recover from it. Getting it doesn't equal death. And like I've said and also seen being 'Re-Tweeted' on Twitter where is the mass hysteria in wanting to be protected from HIV/AIDS? Why don't we talk constantly about these diseases that you can never recover from and will have to live with for the rest of your shortened life?

Fair enough HIV/AIDS isn't airborne like the flu where you can't help but catch it if you're in the wrong place at the wrong time, but with AIDS, people are not taking this shit seriously enough and I see a lot of black folks going on about the damn Swine Flu [when have black people ever been bitch scared of some damn flu? Seriously c'mon! When you know you got a Caribbean or African bush tea remedy that knocks the virus out of you just from smelling it!] Nod ya head if you know what I'm talking about ethnic folks with the ethnic home remedies!

You know what's funny [in a very wrong and twisted way] as a people we're worried about catching Swine Flu, but purposefully and conciouslly going out there and contracting HIV/AIDS with no fear. How sickening is that?

The reason I take it back to black is because:
a) I am black.
b) HIV/AIDS is affecting our communities GLOBALLY, especially the women AT AN ALARMING RATE! How can we as a race be in the minority in the USA and still have the highest NEW HIV rates over any other demographic. Blacks make up 12-13% of the US population.

In 2005 at an official statistic of 13% of the Black US population approx 49% of the new HIV/AIDS statistics were made up of black men and women.

In 2007 in the UK 35% of the new infections were made up of Black Africans [I'm just going to assume this includes black Caribbeans too]. But this is ludicrous AND WE ONLY MAKE UP 2% of this population.

**BANGS HAND ON DESK**
PEOPLE, PEOPLE, PEOPLE WTF IS GOING ON?????

I take pride in my morals, and sexual health. I don't sleep around for fun. If there's no stable committed, relationship going on with feelings, love and trust. WELL YOU'RE JUST NOT GETTING THE GOODS. I will put my urges on hold if it means saving my life. But please don't think an 'I Love You' is gonna get the goods either. I don't do a damn thing unless the above is in place [on both parties] and he gets tested and I get tested.

Sounds like a hassle to you? I'd rather go through that and do what I can to sustain my life rather than go through years of counselling and drug taking just to enhance my life with a dreaded disease. My black ass is celibate and it's staying that way. Laugh. mock if you may. LondonDiva don't give a fuck. There is no dick worth dying for and I don't do drugs. I know I'm clean...do you?

So this swine flu crap is just making me straight mad for the pure sense it's been over hyped and people are running scared the moment someone coughs. Are these the same fools that would look at a fine man/woman and assume they're clean just because they aren't coughing or look sick just to convince themselves the light is green for 5 minutes of raw fun?

Let's get as educated, up to date and savvy about the things that really matter people. Swine Flu, just isn't that serious to me at all. It's a top 'trend' on Twitter I wish HIV/AIDS were top trends too. When people talk, people get educated. I bet we could all write a damn thesis on Swine Flu this week with all that H1N, HN1, H11, H1234 or whatever the hell it is, but don't a damn person want to address the real killer amongst us that's a daily pandemic and here to stay.

If it's not through crime, it's through drugs, if it's not through drugs, it's through obesity, if it's not through obesity, it's through raw dick and pussy that we are killing ourselves.

And we're worried about some damn pig flu? Shoot that's the least of our worries.

No Ghettoness Please! We're Suburbanites!

I woke up to this text from my sister at 6:57am "a man has been shot in the head on grange road!!! You be careful x x "

This came through my front door from the police this afternoon, after doing door to door enquiries. I saw them, but went out before they came to my house.

I wasn't even scared, I was vex when I heard about this. To turn off Grange Road will lead you onto my road. I live in South Norwood, it's very suburban, and I wouldn't call it ghetto, so why has this ghetto youth foolishness now spread to these sides? And not with a stabbing, or whack around the head with a baseball bat, we're talking bullet in the head!!!

I've lived here for 22 years. In the same house, so I've seen from 7-29 years old this area grow and change. ASBO (Anti-Social Behaviour Order) kids we've had yes, now to the point of gun crime round the corner? Take that mess back to Myatts Field Estate where it's the norm.

Listen, I know crime is everywhere yes, but I remember the days where it was rife and concentrated to the likes of Brixton, Hackney, Peckham to name but a few. These areas have, or still have a reputation to some degree but you can't even say these areas house it all anymore. Where you knew certain areas of Peckham were bad you always knew you had that comfort of coming back to SE25 where everything was alright and these things didn't happen. So after The Apprentice finishes last night, round the corner fools are pumping bullets into someone at 10pm.

I'm a Londoner! Get me out of here!

If I go from here to somewhere else I know crime will exist there, but when you've lived here and see it going downhill you may as well just go move to the ghetto where at least you know what you're getting drugs, robbery, muggings, prostitution and murder. I don't want no damn surprises in Suburbia where kids play in their back gardens and old women walk their dogs, which is what makes it worse. If this was in Peckham, you'd expect it, as it 'comes with the territory' in some parts there.

I didn't need to hear the radio to know it was a 'black thing' In London if you're Black, White or Asian and get stabbed or shot, you will make the news. There isn't the whole 'let's push the black crimes to the forefront and make them look bad as a people', well not from what I've seen and heard anyway. I follow these stabbing/shooting stories closely and find that the police don't take the crime any less seriously than if the victim was white. Now in the US [in certain states] there maybe that issue, but I'm not getting that vibe here.

Sadly but not surprised, a majority of these stabbings and shootings are black on black. Anyone that wants to get mad at that better go find a remote island called Denial and sit their ass there. I'm not a black woman that thinks everything negative that happens in our community isn't down to us and it's really the man making it happen. I'm a realist baby. We screw up, I'll talk about it. We do well, I'll talk about. I give props and bashings where it's due. Sharing an African/Caribbean heritage doesn't warrant a pass from me and some black folks in 2009 need to wake up and stop thinking that the sun shines out of our asses and that we're being forced to do wrong, commit crime and have a high percentage of school expulsions.

Let's stop with the white man, economic issues finger pointing and get started on accepting some damn responsibility and start parenting like our parents and grandparents did.

• Stop trying to be friends with your kids and be parents.
• Show discipline and demand respect from these little low-lifes, and have their asses at home on a school night.
• If the police or school come to the door about your child, he deserves an ass whooping for bringing shame to your front door. Instead you wanna stand up there and act like your son is an angel and cuss the principal or the policeman out. Angels don't have the police coming to your front door or the teachers calling your house because Tyrone is being disruptive in class or skipping class altogether.
• You have no business walking the street at 11pm when you are 13 years old. Take your ass to bed and read a damn book. No wonder these little bastards can't even spell or know the difference in the meaning of 'there' and 'their'.

If we make up 2% of the country's population and a smaller percentage are in London with the rest spread out amongst other major cities like Bristol, Birmingham, Manchester etc, then WTF is going on at an alarming rate with our people that the LONDON Metropolitan Police have to set up a division SPECIFICALLY to deal with black on black crime?

Seriously people answer me that? I'd like to find out the time span of the last 5 murders where the victims were black and the perpetrator was NOT. I can't think of one off the top of my head, but if you can then feel free to let me know.

Some people may not like Trident and they usually don't because as a people we don't like our 'dirty laundry being aired in public', but obviously it was cause for concern for the Met to set it up in the first place. Trust! If there was a huge rate of Indian vs. Indian crime, we'd be sitting here wondering WTF is their problem and WTH is going on, there's obviously an 'issue' of great magnitude that deserves special focus and attention on it.

What is the problem that out of so many races, creeds and colours we as a people a lot of the times can't even get along? Whether it be jealously, a screw face at the club to black gangs rivalling other black gangs. We got some issues where we'll turn on our own before we'd even think to get vex and screw face with the White or Asian girl in the club or Black man in the street.

Someone just Twittered me and saw it as more of a money/economical issue. I respectfully disagree. I have been young and dumb, and hated on black girls as a black girl, and hated hard, just because they were black. I wasn't bothered about the whites or asians. I saw the black girl instantaneously as my enemy before I saw her as a sista. A lot of folks feel this way, even if they don't know why. Hey, at least I can admit it, not saying it makes it right. But I like to be open about my faux pas's and not give off this perfect and holier than thou image about myself.

When I walk the street as a 29 year old woman (who now has more sense) I get the stares from black women and the looks from young black men like they want to rush me on the street. Black youths here have no problem in being disrespectful to women I have you know. I look around A LOT (I'm an observant person) I don't see this amongst whites, or Asians much [of course it happens, not saying they don't do it] but a walk from Thornton Heath train station to my house just walking past black people as a black person there is a vibe from a perfect stranger, looking in my face hard like I've done them something. Is that even necessary? Why do we always have to walk the street looking like we want beef, a fight, or arguments. Something is in the air with us as a people.

How many times have you been in a car, at the traffic lights next to a car with black folks in there and you feel some kind of tension like if you casually look over, something is gonna kick off? Defenses go up, for what reason? Don't know they just do. Are we very highly strung, always wanting to prove one is badder than the other? When I was this young, angry black woman it surely wasn't about money or economical issues with regard to my mindset. I've mentioned before in previous blogs I was one of those girls that always wanted to get into it with anyone, didn't care who, just big up your chest and see who's bad....just because I was I guess bad mind. A lot of kids aren't admitting that these days. There are some people out there that just get off on just being or wanting to be perceived as a bad ass or bad mind.

Of course we as a people are not all bad or have issues with one another. Black on black crimes are not isolated in the western world to just the USA, it's a proven epidemic in the UK now too and they're bringing it hard to my area now it seems.

What Happened To Just Being 'Bad Mind'?

I see I have some new followers. Welcome and thanks. If you don't know, this is the 'Keep It Real' section of the world wide web. LondonDiva has and always will be very opinionated. Some may get offended [so what], others like what I have to say.

I've been a lil AWOL from blogging world [both reading and writing] as since being laid off I've been busy as hell. And the thought of sitting down other than to eat whilst sneaking in a few minutes of Sex & The City, on DVD just seems lazy to me right about now.

I've got the heavy grafting out of the way. Still busy, but haven't devoted much time to my movie pastime. I got a DVD this morning. A film called Cass [true story] from my DVD rental club. To sum it up it's about a Jamaican baby who was adopted by an English, elderly, white couple and he grows up in East London as a West Ham and notorious football hooligan.

So I'm there, Twittering away on the Blackberry and watching this film. And I thought let me switch on the computer and blog. This place [blogville] is my outlet and I need to get it out.

The film is on pause downstairs. Prison scene. A black man has entered prison in the 70's and I got to thinking....

I am not the one to come at with this whole bullshit excuse about black men and the system. Wanna know why from MY PERSPECTIVE. OK here goes.

Over, say the last 20 years. More so in the 90's and 00's if there is anything wrong with you in any capacity there is a name and a condition for it.

• You get depressed when the clocks go back, you can buy a clock which brightens up your room in the morning and say you suffer from a condition called S.A.D.
• Your ass is lazy in school. You got A.D.D.
• You throw up after meals, you're bulimic.
• You starve yourself, you're anorexic.
• You rob, steal, murder and rape. It's because you never had a father whilst growing up and your mother had to work two jobs.

Spare me the mother fucking drama.

Don't get it twisted. For some things I do believe there is a condition and people have it like the S.A.D. and A.D.D. amongst others. But not every lazy ass kid in school has A.D.D. and not every person who dislikes the winter months suffers from S.A.D. How about bright and summer months are preferred over dark and cold days? If I was still in school I think they would have given me the A.D.D. tag. Seriously. I never did homework and never revised for my GCSE exams. I even dropped out of college, because I skipped class to hang out and socialise. I left school passing my exams. I was clever still am, just lazy, didn't pay attention and had a short attention span. No condition. LondonDiva was a lazy student. PERIOD! All I knew was I wanted money and I wanted it now. Luckily I was never 'bad mind' to be a criminal. But I can see where the desire stems from.

When you read report after report after report you begin to believe all the BS these doctors and scientists are spouting, please go find a cure for AIDS and Cancer. If Hitler was alive and in full effect today, guess what? There would be a childhood reason PLUS condition for the way that he is that would excuse his behaviour or give us reason to somewhat sympathise and understand to a degree.

Tired of it!

I'm a Chris Rock fan. And in one of his shows he was referring to crazy people [namely criminals] and he said along the lines of "whatever happened to just plain old crazy?"

Yes Chris **applauds**. Whatever did happen to just plain old crazy? We gotta put a label on every damn thing. So much so I even tried to find out a name of a condition as to why I went to bed in the early hours of the morning and not like 10pm like most normal people. There is nothing wrong with my black ass. I just like going to bed when I feel like it. I got suckered into finding a condition for my own sleep pattern. Which was just that, a sleep pattern.

You know why I get so tired, so pissed off when my own black people want to start going off on the damn police all the time for GUILTY brothas being incarcerated? They are missing the damn point, that is why?

What is your black ass doing committing crimes to the point where you're gonna get caught, then stand there and talk about the police being racist? In 2009 are you that simple? And on top of that, people on the sidelines what are you getting so angry for at someone breaking the law and getting caught. That's supposed to happen, black, white, Latino or Asian. You do something illegal. There is a penalty for it. I'm not going to start sticking up for dumb folks because we share African lineage. *Shakes head* sorry, no.

Black folks here's a warning for those still on the basic levels of pure common sense. If you know the police are racist and always on a brothas ass, then don't do some dumb shit to give them reason to put you away. Even smoking weed in public. They will tear you up before the white boy in your crew. So don't get vex about it!

The 'I wish you would' syndrome. We black folks have it. I surely do. Remember Cedric The Entertainer talking about it in The Original Kings of Comedy?

• Oh I wish you'd say something to make me go off on your ass.
  
• Oh I wish someone would be in my damn seat so I could go off on your ass.
• Oh I wish you'd just look at me in that way again so I could go off on your ass.
• Say something, just SO I CAN GO OFF ON YOUR ASS!
  

Ever stop to think a black man getting caught for committing a crime is a white police officer's 'I wish you would' syndrome? They are more than happy to lock you up for some dumb shit. Just because (a) it's dumb and (b) you're black.

Of course I think it's wrong for the typical pulling a brotha over because he's driving a nice ride earned with legit money. Or throwing him in a cell because 'he fits the description' and we all know they think we all look alike. Well guess what, to me white folks look alike too [especially blond white women]. So do Chinese, Koreans, Japanese and Indian folks. I don't know the bloody difference half the time. I can pretty much tell it with my people. I'm not saying I agree with it [the police], but I can understand [to a degree] with them looking the same to me also. And yes even some of my friends say a lot of white people look alike to them too, so it's not just me. And if we think it then other races think it too. So let's stop with the rubbish and feeling insulted by THEM thinking that WE all look the same, when we do it to each other.

I'm not backing the police 100% but I'm not hating them 100% either, because when you are in need your gonna be looking to dial 911 or 999 with a quickness, so I'm not quick to disparage that public service when I personally haven't been hard done by them....yet in 29 years. Some cops are straight FOUL, some are OK. That's the way I see it personally.

Anyway this isn't 100% blog about the police. It's about our actions as a people and why we do it.
There is a psychological explanation for every damn thing, isn't there? **Yawn**

Whatever happened to just plain old BAD MIND! [Jamaican term for simply put, bad on purpose].

Black folks are a minority IN CERTAIN COUNTRIES [white people make up 16% of the GLOBAL population. THINK ABOUT THAT WHEN YOU CALL US A MINORITY], but in the US [12-13% population] and UK [2% population] there is a high concentration of black males in the prison system.

Why?

Oh yeah, I forgot *smacks forehead* Police corruption. A majority [98%] are innocent. It's the man's plan to lock us all up. Tyrone and Dae Dae grew up without a father. The school system failed them. No one was around to show you how to 'ack' right. Mama had to work 12 jobs and you had to cook dinner for your little brothers after school when you were 7 years old.

*SCREAMS*

What happened to just being bad mind?

• They wanted to steal. Rob.
• Kill the man because of the 'I wish you would' type syndrome.
• Rape the girl because she turned him down how many times before and would teach her a lesson.
  
• Steal the kids ipod because he wanted fast money for some new trainers so would sell it for cash.
  
• Sell drugs right next to me at the KFC bus stop because he wants fast money and school, exams and work 'ARE A LONG TING!'
  
• Acts BAD MIND because no one will fuck with him and being who he is and what he does will command respect and have people fear him.
  
• And just fight, because well....he wants to fight.
  

Please, like all kids/men act the way they do because daddy wasn't present. What about the criminals that have both parents present and are just as bad in their criminal activities? What's the excuse there because there is none, especially when folks want to get all psychological with their reasons for being a criminal in the first place. I know of someone both parents, no childhood trauma, did a 5 year stretch for armed robbery. I know of another fast and bad mind for money one in the midst of a drug deal that went bad and landed them inside. [I know of these people. They are not in my circle].

What about the TONS of girls who grew up without their fathers? I mean I get so angry [again] at this because they act like black males are the only ones abandoned at birth and are affected the greatest. I know too many black women [myself included] that have never laid eyes on their biological father, or were abandoned at some stage in their lives by him. Funny how a lot of these women still went on to date/marry black men considering their first experience with one was abandonment, yet 50% of UK brothas [yes 50%] date/marry, white/non-black and WERE RAISED, not abandoned, by black women. They [women] just got on with life period even through the absent father, child sex abuse, teen rape, boyfriends who beat them and miscarriages and made something of themselves.

I mean that dating/abandonment statistic/comparison shows a prime example of our past having nothing to do with what we do in the future and having little to no effect on our actions in later life. If it were logical then why aren't there 50% or more of black women dating white/non-black seeing as they were abandoned by a black man at birth, and about 95% of brothas dating/marrying black women as they were raised and influenced by one. Makes no sense because people do what they want to do. Some are attracted to certain people, others by certain lifestyles for no other reason than that and that alone. It's not always about 'textbook' cases.

I'm not even saying this to side with women [just because I am one] but I know more TRAGIC stories about little black girls to women than I do about the brothas and their childhoods. I look at these women and think "Wow, looking at you, you'd never know you've been through all of that and then some, and still made something of yourself." [side note: has every black woman been abused by a family member or something cause this seems to be the bloody norm in our community...that's a whole other blog right there]. I remember reading a thread on the forum I frequent at and the Off Topic discussion was about who had been a member of sexual abuse/rape? My heart bled and wept at the same time. There were a ton of them., it was like a Dr Phil online episode. And no these women didn't go on to be strippers or hookers either as a result. People you have NO IDEA sometimes what women have been through before they are even women and still go on to get those good grades, and strive for a great career.

I know black women are incarcerated too, but let's be real here, the stats have always been and shown it's an issue amongst the men in our community. Why are they using or blaming their upbringing as reason for incarceration where the women I know who have had it worse have made something of themselves. Black men [and this is one of my biggest pet peeves with you all] You do bloody yap on a lot about

"it being so hard for the black man."

Is this is a global mantra? A unified chant amongst the brothas? It's actually very annoying and any man I hear harp on along those lines I distance myself from pretty quickly. I don't need or want to be around people who see or use their race as a reason for not being ahead or where they want to be in life. We can no longer do this in 2009. And yes Obama is a reason. White House occupied by black folks. Black man with a wife who's 'ethnic make-up we didn't have to guess' and two beautiful black children he got the top job with by his side. He wasn't an educated corporate yuppie that when he got successful lost his mind and felt to get accepted needed to marry white, which happens a lot. So top job, with a Nubian family union and still made it. Folks saw the blackness the word over and were NOT intimidated, what's your excuse?

"They don't hire black people?" **blinks 1,000 times a minute** " 'scuse me? Oh I guess it's the 50% white side of Obama that got into office then."

STOP.IT.WITH.YOUR.RUBBISH. And in the words of Dizzie Rascal "Fix up. Look Sharp."

What about the brothas failed by their fathers, families and the school system. The brothas who have been pulled over umpteen times by the police and tired of the racial inequality and discrimination. Even the brothas victims of abuse themselves or witnessed their own mother being beaten. Why have these brothas made something of themselves, and continue to do so?

Kudos to everyone [not just black men] making something out of themselves, continuing to strive and just doing things the HONEST way.

There is no man sitting in a room, drumming up ideas in how to 'bring us down' SO BLACK PEOPLE STOP THE MADNESS and get over yourselves if you really buy into this BS. White people don't care about us enough to sit there scheming about bringing us down in the millions when we know making money is their #1 priority. We are not that important to them. And if the Crack Cocaine Conspiracy were true [it either was or it wasn't] who the hell told us to jump and go sell it or smoke it? If it wasn't crack, those that were screwed up enough to either sell it or smoke it would have found another A List substance to go sell, smoke or inject into the community WITHOUT the CIA's help. Aren't we still selling drugs to our own and smoking it too? Is the CIA STILL to blame? I thought we were a stronger people than that. Funny how we want a scapegoat for our problems but when we are striving black folks did it by themselves.

If you buy into it [the man wanting to bring us down], well TRUST, you deserve to be brought down by the man. You have time to even care. DO YOU! Get a grip and look around there are mainstream media successes as well as behind the scenes, activists, leaders, doctors, lawyers, teachers, ministers, professors, parents. HOLDING DOWN WHO? I've never felt I was plotted against or being held down. Never! And even if I was they didn't lock the shackles tight enough around these wrists and ankles. I do however believe there are those [non-blacks] that don't understand/get us and don't necessarily believe in our great capabilities, and I think at times that is what we are getting misconstrued. Oh I've had a white woman in an investment bank working environment read something to me following her finger along the words like I'm reading Billy Blue Hat in school aged 4. Seriously people there are some non-black folks out there surprised we can read and write to a 10 year old standard. These are the folks that bring out the 'I wish you would' in me.

Seriously NOT every brotha in the system is there because of some deep rooted psychological problem or social issue.

What ever happened to some of them being simply bad mind?

None of these three were born with silver spoons in their mouths. They did work hard enough to go buy a few at Tiffany's though. Oprah's childhood was awful. What is her excuse for being so bloody successful and rich? When I look at hard grafters who never had it good nor easy it makes me less sympathetic to those that use their past as an excuse for their pathetic future.

Oh That Was A Bitch Ass Move Right There!

Here's the scene.

From 2005-2008 girl [me] is casually involved with guy [in Houston]
Guy has crazy ex girlfriend.
Guy ends it with me, proposes to crazy ex.
Guy phones me telling me he's engaged
Me gives guy a cussing via text post conversation.
Me and guy casually involved again after he calls off wedding.
Me February 2008 e-mail guy after last visit severing all ties and notifying him I am ceasing all communication.

**I have only contacted guy once, and blind copied at that on a group e-mail to the folks in Houston making sure everyone was OK following the hurricane**

There have been no phone calls, texts, social networking website messages, picture messages, carrier pigeons, Interflora flowers going on.

I have actually removed his phone numbers, deleted all past e-mails I may have had, thrown any 'guy' associated keepsakes away in the trash. I basically did what most women DO NOT do. I severed ties and removed as many traces of this dickhead as I could.

I keep in touch occasionally with his mother, [twin] brother and friend. Two of his friends are on my MySpace and I never ask how he is, and they never mention him to me.

You get the gist??? Hopefully that sets the scene a little for you.

Now a little something about me: If I'm 'involved' with you whether a friendship or a relationship and it doesn't work out. I have a rule to sever ties. It works for me. I have ex-boyfriends, ex-friends, and in this case ex-pricks in my life that I don't care about and have no place in my life because of a certain amount of negativity that they bring into it. I try to live as peaceful and as positively as possible. Don't bring it to my door. In any capacity.

To a degree I'm also private. I'll tell you what I feel comfortable in you knowing. I don't create drama but if you bring it, I'll be involved until it's flushed out. Ya feel me. Think of it as I never start a fight, throw the first punch and give me a reason to whoop your ass.

Today blog readers of LondonDiva's blog I don't care about you knowing. In fact for those of you that like gossip and a little drama, here it is for you. I CHOOSE to share this with you. I don't CHOOSE to share other elements of my personal life right now, but if I do you'll know about it…within reason of course *wink* So think of me what you may today. Today I'm sharing a part of my life I closed the door to a long time ago. God brought this prick into my life for a reason. I know why even if he doesn't.

Remember…no communication for a year then I wake up at 6:30 am to this on the Blackberry. Blog readers I'd expect this bullshit from a woman hence the 'bitch ass move' title this morning.

" I don't know if you heard or not, but I have gotten engaged. I've been engaged for about a year now. Out of respect to me and my fiancée please don't send any emails or phone calls as it would be inappropriate. I appreciate it."

What does he expect me to say to that? "OK then K****"

*KISSING MY TEETH JAMAICAN AND AFRICAN STYLEE**

Who's caring about this Umpa Loompa and his natty headed fiancé?

**LondonDiva had to scroll up and check the date on this e-mail because this couldn't have been sent of February 19th 2009! Surely not considering no one is contacting his flat ass. Flat not fat…it's not a typo**

My response…get a cup of tea a biscuit whatever.... Fashogi I needed the mutha fucking patron this morning bruh. Myers couldn't calm down a South London black woman at 6:30 am on a Thursday. I've been too fucking polite for too fucking long. The Naomi [my real name] he knew, is long dead and gone. The old one that spoke her mind and didn't care what anyone thought has been back for the longest, he's not familiar with her at all.

"You know me, can't do anything in a paragraph!

I had to check the Blackberry wasn't sending me throwback e-mails from circa 2005 to 2008 or something.

First off I'd appreciate YOU not contacting me by any means. The last time I checked this time last year it was me who had written you a series of e-mails telling you in no capacity I wanted anything to do with you. The only time you were contacted by me was BLIND COPIED on a group e-mail following the hurricane to make sure everyone was OK in Houston. Spare me K****, my name is not C*****, no one [me] is blowing up your phone, running a car through your garage, or calling you at work to get your attention. Your name is not even mentioned on this side of the water. I speak with your mother and e-mail her regularly I don't ask about you and she doesn't mention your name. In fact there is a rule amongst my friends your name is NOT to even be mentioned around me. We are capable of having a relationship to some degree that has nothing to do with you. So me NOT knowing about your engagement should tell you that much. We have bigger and better things to talk about, we have lives and share some of that together when we do communicate. Do you think you are that important that you are and always will be the topic of conversation? You are not.

You should know better. You've contacted me specifically to tell me about an impending engagement before. The first time was dumb on the fuckery level of dumb. This time I really am wondering just WTF medication you are on? It's been a year and you're contacting me for what? My life has moved on tenfold and you're sitting there in Houston close to 10pm e-mailing someone who has not been concerned about you for the longest why? NEVER would I get engaged and e-mail anyone I was ever involved in. NEVER! Certainly not you anyway. I hope you dished out an e-mail to C***** as well, [unless she's the impending wife to be again] because I have no use or need for your silly little 'don't contact me rules' Sweetie ain't nobody contacting you for shit. Stop acting like you are so important to any female you've ever penetrated.

Proof that you really are self involved BEYOND belief and then some. Was that REALLY a 'don't contact me e-mail' or a 'look at how I'm getting on with my life e-mail' or did you read a self help book on getting to the altar and this is task 3.12 on how to wipe the slate clean before you say your vows? **shakes head profusely** No one right here right now cares. AT ALL. Your lame attempt to e-mail me like I've been bombarding you with communication is so fucked up, I'm thinking where is this coming from? Do you think my life has been on pause and yours on fast forward x8 since last year? I told you a few years back and I'll you again Get Over Yourself! But this time multiply it by infinity. Do you need flashcards too?

Just to be clear [as it seems me not talking to you for a year isn't clear enough fo ya. I'm not bothered]
I keep in contact with the following people on occasion, J*****, B****, your mother & N***. V** and D***** are on my MySpace and with none of these people do I enquire about you. NONE. Ask them! I'm a self respecting woman, and when she ends something she ends it, means it and leaves whoever the hell alone. So don't sit there e-mailing me like I've been disrespectful in attempting to contact you or somewhere down the line maybe lusting after your little ass.

Your e-mail addresses and phone numbers have been long gone, along with any keepsakes associated with you [probably in some land fill in India somewhere]. I don't want to see your name in my e-mail inbox EVER AGAIN! Nigga delete my shit with a quickness. Please!

I am not going to lie you hit a raw nerve when I saw your name on my Blackberry and the saw the pathetic content. Equate that feeling to how that off-key, trifling ex of yours carried on. Yes K**** you have reduced me to a level of nothingness when it comes to you. Before today we may have not spoken and I may have had a tiny bit of respect left for you. That has now gone in an instant.

Just to reiterate DON'T CONTACT ME AGAIN BY ANY MEANS! NONE!!! No one here is vying for your attention in any capacity. I don't like, love, care or even respect you K****. Do you get it now? Does it somehow register?

Now leave me the fuck alone just like I have over the past year! You've got some mutha fucking nerve contacting me for some unnecessary bullshit... "

If you're close to me, you know the drama surrounding the involvement of this guy and know that was warranted. I won't EVER apologise for that. EVER!!!

Oh of course bloggers you know my girls got this in their inboxes this morning. I am a woman. You send us bullshit we let the other one know about it. Don't act like you're not surprised.

My beautiful little sister said

"That is a wicked email!!
That was very random of him to even send that - I think that he sent it to a few females, the reason he thought that you should be one of the is beyond me.
it has been over a year - get over yourself - you aren't that hot rude bwoy !! well at least you told him - hopefully he knows better than to reply or he will get cussing number two ."

My friend and fellow blogger said…a few things.

"For some reason even I'm vexed @ that idiot!!"

"you know even I had to go and check if you'd blogged about it already!!You know, I cussed him in my language and u know a sista is made when she goes all traditional on a brother..once more I say 'voertsek' to him (Afrikaans for f-off but it has a stronger effect than f-off)"

"You sure told him!!!!! Ok so this fool after about a year decides to email you to say don't email me?WTF is he on?He must have taken some drugs or maybe not, he didn't take his medication that's why he sending this mess!! You know he's probably one of those guys who sits there thinking hmmm Nai hasn't been in touch lemme tell her how I've moved on because she doesn't seem to ask about him (maybe even his mom told him you don't ask about him) and so this is his pathetic 'masterplan'....IDIOT TING DAT!!!!!"

My 'ride or die chick' friend wrote…

"Got your e-mail and just read it, all I have to say is amen to everything that you just said in your e-mail!!! WTF planet is he on, glad you got that off your chest and let it rip what on earth is wrong with him – I mean really who cares
You go girl now that’s how you tell someone about themselves – lmao what an eediot the audacity"

And another friend said

"omg, I read the first line and I'm spitting fire *goes back to email* IS HE HAVING A F ING LAUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

My other friend called me and left a voicemail. And when I spoke to her this morning she said.

"Does he even realise he's actually the subject of a lot of ridicule?"

No Mrs H I didn't, not until you mentioned it. But this is like a guy dropping his pants and having 6 females point and laugh. I hope this fiancé this time round is black [the last one was a racist Indian, but marrying a black man heffer], because it seems there are a few black women and then some equating this fool of a brotha to a pool of the "we don't deal with your type" fuckery. Maybe that's why he dealt with her. Black women putting up with a manchild like him? I remember him telling me one of his ex's just upped and left. Ummm black women don't just up and leave asshole. You did some shit she probably was tired of. That's why we don't deal with some of your asses anymore. Chance upon chance is given then we've reached boiling point and it's time to hit the bricks, put the pedal to the metal and move onto the next decent, loving, respectful brotha. Yes, we know you're out there and we love you for it. But today is bash this one black man day.

My co-worker was killing herself laughing at my e-mail and male colleagues were shaking their heads and laughing too, thinking what self-respecting man sends a woman that, and actually agreed it was a bitch ass move. I obviously cannot respect him at all, I mean to the point where I'm showing this to folks for entertainment value and laughing right along with them tells you something about my level [scratch that] lack of feeling I have for this jumped up excuse for a man. Whereas before with an ex in front of folks I'd always big them up and just say it didn't work out but so and so was a good person, and to this day give genuine props to my long-term ex because he is a good man [not this prick I'm blogging about]. It's not always about being scorned and bitter when you part ways.

Oh don't get it twisted now folks. It's not revenge at all. I haven't named names, or even posted a picture. I'm not even gonna put him and his idiot self on blast to THAT degree, and I'm sure he sure as hell doesn't read my blog. And if he did **shrug** don't care in the slightest.

Not once, but twice. Fucking prick! E-mail me again and see if I don't play my trump card the next time around. I've kept my cards too close to my chest for too long. If I have to speak again to you, upon what you hear from my last [and hopefully final] e-mail, you'll definitely wish you'd never met me let alone contacted me. I'm not evil or vindictive, but never give someone reason to be.

As the Jamaican saying goes.
Those who do not hear, must feel

I am NOT the one bruh, I am NOT the one!