The Dream’s Open Letter About His Shenanigans

I know I'm a week late with this...but still, some of you may have not seen it. 

A lot of people on the Internet, websites and bloggers alike called this an apology to Christina. It’s not. Not in my eyes anyway.

In My Own Words:

First I want to thank God for the trials of life, without them we can’t know purpose!

I would love to tell the truth as to why my relationship wasn’t successful, but today that is between me and Christina. Its easy to say that it’s because of another woman or a new relationship but truthfully, IT’S NOT.

I take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for misleading everyone into thinking everything was fine and okay when 

we knew problems existed for awhile! I wanted to speak up but we decided it wasn’t for anyone to know. I would NEVER intentionally hurt a soul and everyone around me knows that! There was so much going on in me and Christina’s personal world that I tried to deal with it as delicately as I could and tried to regain my footing. Instead of being direct in order not to cause even more hurt or hurt someone’s feelings, I carried the weight in secret!

I am Human and people fall in and out of Love all the time… This is Life. Nothing’s promised or perfect, neither am I. I am not proud that I lost something we once had…LOVE! I’ve always been a Loving Father, Hard Worker, Generous, Stern and Eager to prove myself. My faults are I can be irresponsible and an ass sometimes, but I HAVE NEVER and WILL NEVER be a malicious person or wish harm to anyone, especially those I love or the mother of my child. I’m sorry for the embarrassment to everyone involved! If there’s anyone to blame and you can’t fathom this happening, please blame me and me alone for not being upfront! Even though we were trying to overcome personal things between us, I was just simply scared and embarrassed to let everyone know we WERE FAILING and HAVE NOW FAILED!

This is not to justify anything, it’s true emotion! It’s a real thing that involves real people! I’ve cried about this for months, after interviews, after prayer and I’ve tried to take my own life at a point because of the failure that was looming.

But I was reminded by my MOTHER that I am not “Superman” and its okay to lose sometimes…

This too shall pass! And everything will be fine!

~ Terius Nash ~

This is a bunch of bullsh**! First off this Care Bear, Ewok looking mutha needs to take his fat a$$ to Christina in PRIVATE and talk things out. 

You see how some people even during trials and tribulations are STILL all about them? Perfect example RIGHT HERE. Egotistical, narcissistic son of a bitch. 

He’s telling US…members of the public about his business. Even when trying to seem sincere, he’s actually doing the opposite.

“I’ve cried about this for months, after interviews, after prayer and I’ve tried to take my own life at a point because of the failure that was looming.”

LIES!!! Don’t you think a suicide attempt would have gotten out. I don’t believe him. He just wants us to feel sorry for him.

Damage control gone wrong in my eyes. No one is believing this crap and how long were they married for to be having such problems? He is writing this letter like they were joined together for 20 years.

Good luck to the next heffer that lets her vagina be penetrated by that soft plush toy looking bastard.

Errr NO Alicia Keys DID NOT!? Plus I Talk About Lauryn & Erykah.

A bunch of pseudo celebs decided to reach out and offer words of support to Christina and baby Violet after pictures surfaced of The Dream gallivanting on a beach in the Caribbean with his P.A.

Peep the tweet from Miss Assistant-Man Teef Alicia Keys herself. I’m still blinking profusely at this one.

You are a superwoman in every way and I dedicate this to all my superwomen. Have a positive outlook and remember "what goes around comes around."

Errr excuse me!!! WHAT???? “What goes around comes around” huh Alicia?

Super Woman?

There is nothing Super or Woman about this chick. I used to think Alica Keys possessed intelligence and really was one of these deep sistas with a message to empower young women through her music. Now I just realise Alicia Keys has no sense, substance or morals and is actually a rather simple piano playing, song churning, pigeon toed, skank, honing in on her acting abilities and fooling us all. 

Y’all can be fooled, but I am NOT!

Alicia who was WITH Swizz Beatz during his marriage to Mashonda, gave ADVICE to Christina Milian??? If I was Christina I’d be insulted. How you gonna assist to teef a man, yet try and console a woman whose husband has been with another woman and still wearing her wedding ring?? Please tell me??

Alicia Keys needs to sit the f*** down. I am so tired of this chick. I don’t care how much Kente cloth she puts on, head wraps she wears, or African ceremonies to bless her gaudy union she attends. I’ve lost ALL respect for her.

This month Mashonda, ex wife of Swizz, gave an interview to Vibe Magazine. If you don’t believe that Alicia was knowingly messing with Swizz at the time, then peep this excerpt here:

If you were generously invited, would you attend their wedding?

No. Not out of malice, but because weddings are sacred. It's just not my place. The only reason I went to his birthday party was because he invited me and I did that for myself. I needed to see them together for it to transfer. And I was like ‘Wow, this is real.’ We were still totally married…We had a divorce that was nowhere near final, but I just needed to see them in action for it to be real to me, and it was definitely real. You have all these different types of steps that you have to set up for yourself until you get to that place where you are free. And I will tell you, after I got divorced maybe three weeks later I woke up and felt a weight removed. It was the first time I’d ever felt mentally free. And I sent him an email wishing him all the best in the world.

Since this Mashonda/Alicia mess surfaced a lot of women chicks with hoe mentalities have been rising to the surface, coming out of their hood rat infested holes all ‘Team Keys’ and telling Mashonda to get over it and move on.

THAT WAS A MARRIED WOMAN! HOW ABOUT YOU MOVE ON TO AN AVAILABLE MAN!

Are you all riding Alicia’s clit THAT HARD that you actually gave her a pass for her behaviour? Let a woman like Ms Key’s do you like she did Mashonda and you’d be telling a different story. Let Ms Keys be the woman that assisted in your father’s trifling behaviour and left your mama high and dry. Would you be telling your mother to just simply get over it, move on, whilst waving a placard in the air supporting the woman that ran off with your pops? 

Another thing people say….well what about Swizz? Everyone is going really hard on Alicia. You want to know the reason why…?? If a man married or otherwise is a cheating dog, then he’s gonna be a cheating dog. He will go out and sniff cooch after cooch until some woman helps him do the dirty deed on his wife, child and marriage. You don’t HAVE to be the woman that assists him in his cheating. Go and find yourself a single man and leave him alone! Tell him no, and he’ll move onto some next chick. That’s why I call her the ASSISTANT man teef. You can’t ‘steal’ a man from anyone, but a man cannot cheat by himself. Your presence and involvement sure can help him and tempt him along the way and eventually out of that relationship. That’s exactly what she did, assist him. It should have been a case of:

1. Married man is looking for some fresh poon-tang.
2. Woman knows man is married.
3. Married man comes onto woman.
4. Woman should have no further involvement with the married man. Draw a line under it right there and distance herself from him. No exchanging of numbers, texts, e-mails, dates…nothing. 

Why are you even allowing it to get to a point of love with a married man? If you adhere to step 4, then there should be no love in the first place. At that point there are no emotions, so go and take a cold shower, siddown and read a book.

MY stance on married, separated, soon to be divorced men:

• I don’t get involved with any of them and never will.
• I don’t care what problems they are having between them as a couple. It’s not right to be a third party in that union under ANY circumstances.
• If a man is married, separated and not yet divorced but on his way to being so, he’s STILL married, and as far as I’m concerned I equate that to adultery.
• I don’t even care if the separation/pending divorce has been drawn out for 15 years…he’s STILL married.
• I wouldn’t even date a man fresh out of a divorce.
• Married people are ALLOWED to have their bad times and rough patches without you using that as an excuse to sleep with them. Once they call it a day with ink on the dotted line of the divorce papers then he’s ALL yours.

What is it with some of these deep women and their off key personal lives that we would shake our heads at if they were regular women who lived round our way? Instead some of us give em a free pass because they put out a friggin album which is relatively decent?

Eykah Badu – 3 children by 3 different men. If she wasn't Ms Badu we'd be putting her in the same class as the chicks on The Jeremy Kyle show with no teeth. Wrap some cloth round her fake dreads all of a sudden we get her reasons behind her choices and decide she's free from the very same judgement that we do to the other women that walk the planet. My issue is not with Erykah's lifestyle choice but the hypocrisy in which people defend her choices where they wouldn't others. Thankfully [I'm hoping] no broken hearts occurred with other women as a result of her bearing 3 children. 

Lauryn Hill – 5 children by Rohan Marley. When she was running around with a very married Wyclef Jean [Wyclef confirmed their relationship in 2007], she got pregnant by a very married Mr Marley. Rohan never divorced his wife. Lauryn used to refer to Rohan as her husband on her Myspace page. Years ago I remember checking his MySpace page when I saw this on Lauryn’s page. On Rohan's it said he was single. It states the same thing on Wikipedia, but I can assure you I saw both their pages years ago within minutes of each other and that’s what I saw with my own eyes.

ISN’T ANYONE AFRAID OF THE AIDS??? YES I SAID ‘THE AIDS’???? ALL THIS DIPPIN’ N' STICKIN’???

Alicia Keys – got with Swizz when he was married to Mashonda, months after Mashonda gave birth to their son. Whilst with Keys, the human/rodent mutant has fathered a child [left]. Keys was supposedly present during the paternity test in London and will now be mother number 4 to child number 4 of his. So already Swizz has done the dirty on Alicia, and she’s sticking with him and sitting this foolery out?? 

Yeah you a Super something alright, a Super Trick who got played…What was that sh** she was singing about…A Woman’s Worth? There is no hope in hell that their marriage will last. And when it’s over Alicia will release a statement along the lines of

“We are no longer married on paper, but still bonded within the depths of our souls. We will continue to love each other, just apart as physical beings. No longer bound together by society’s ideals of marriage. Together as one in unity to raise our child with the love and respect of its parents that he/she deserves.”

And I can tell you now that will be the cover up statement for “he did it again and cheated on me. I feel so shame faced, and rather than the whole world 'tell me so' let me release this bogus statement to cover up all the shame.”

It’s all well and good to probably think I’m vilifying these women in this blog, but truth be told they and other women like them make choices in their lives. Picking and choosing unavailable men to procreate with, or choosing available, but multiple men to procreate with.

These same women, who if they lived in your neighbourhood you’d be gossiping about and shaking your head at. Just because they put out 15 tracks on an album that you can bop your head and sway to, all of a sudden you give em a pass, and make excuses for their behaviour. So it’s alright for us to make fun of Ulrika Jonsson and call her 4x4 [4 children by 4 men] but not say anything when it comes to Erykah?? 

Look, whether it’s our business or not, people are going to talk. That’s it. Bottom line. Plain and simple. I can’t be that hypocrite. If whats-her-face down the road in exactly the same situation gets talked about, so can the women listed above.

Poignant lines from Lauryn Hill’s smash hit Doo Wop That Thing

Girls you know you better watch out
some guys,some guys are only about
that thing, that thing, that thing

Plus when you give it up so easy you ain't even fooling him
If you did it then, then you probably f*** again

Girlfriend, let me break it down for you again
You know I only say it 'cause I'm truly genuine
Don't be a hardrock when you're really a gem
Babygirl, respect is just a minimum
Niggas f***ed up and you still defending them

The second verse is dedicated to the men
More concerned with his rims and his Timbs than his women

The pretty face, men claiming that they did a bid men
Need to take care of their three and four kids men
The quick to shoot the semen stop acting like boys and be men

Didn’t Lauryn end up with the same type of man she sang about in regard to the above?
Between her and Alica Keys singing and tweeting about Karma I’m through with these fake heffers.

Ladies, You're DOOMED Because Halle & Christina Can’t Keep A Man!!

I just have to write a blog on this today, I just have to.

As you may know Christina Milian has been cheated on and The Dream has announced their separation.

So why are SOME women all of a sudden feeling doomed to the fiery pits of permanent singledom because beautiful women like Halle Berry and Christina Milian have been cheated on and their marriages have come to an end?

Since when did Halle and Christina’s lives have any bearing upon you, your man, your relationship, or your marriage? Listen up ladies and listen good. I am TIRED of telling women to stop tarring men with the same brush, and I’m TIRED of telling women to stop putting women like Halle Berry n dem on a gottdamn pedestal.

YO F*** HALLE BERRY!!

 

I’m tired of that woman being some kind of measuring stick for relationships and beauty amongst women in the black community. Go get a gottdamn life you crazy ass heffers. I don’t give a damn how many men fawn over that woman, how beautiful she looks in a Revlon or Versace ad, how perfect her hair and skin looks, I’m more concerned with transferring that admiration over to my damn self and loving my black ass flaws and all. When you’re able to do that, you’re able to let someone into your life who’s going to love you flaws an all as well.

THERE ARE GOOD MEN OUT THERE, but some of you read way too many blog stories about a celeb cheating on his pretty wife that you (a) put yourself in the average looks category looking at these pretty people all day long (b) in the mindset that if a pretty woman who all men seem to want, desire, and lust over gets cheated on, then there is no hope for an average Jane like yourself. And (c) ALL men cheat because there’s a story in every newspaper and magazine, that it just HAS to be true!

THINK AGAIN!!

I try and take the negative and put a positive thought process to it. Two of the most common ones that I hear all the time are:

• 50% of marriages fail.
• All men cheat.

Hmmm, sounds to me that a lot of women are setting themselves up for failure before they’ve even begun when they speak so much about the possibility of being part of that statistic and ending up with a cheating man.

LondonDiva’s thought process is:

• Well 50% of marriages succeed, no one talks about those.
• Not all men cheat, the ones that are faithful just rarely get talked about, especially in the media.

FYI women cheat too, and for those that think all men are sh** and want to venture to the other side and take up full time residency in lesbianville, some of those women get cheated on and beat by their women too! Just so you know!

My aim and focus is to be part of that 50% with a good, honest and trustworthy man by my side. I haven’t got time to focus on the negative. The Law of Attraction works, God is always working. Like attracts like, because what you indeed focus on, you’ll get. Focus on no good men; they’ll pop up on every street corner. They may even take you out on a date, put a ring on it and marry you. Ever heard “why do I always attract these fools?” coming from you or the mouths of your girlfriends? Ask yourself the following also:

• Do you focus HARD on the qualities of a good man that you may want to enter your life?
• After the focus, do you believe he’s out there for you somewhere?
• After that, do you remain faithful and believe that it’s on the way to you?

Think about it, let it marinate!

I don’t know Halle or Christina personally, but looks doesn’t get or keep any man in a relationship or marriage. Your face and body may attract them initially, as men are visual creatures, but if you have no substance to you as an individual, then it’s pretty much all over. Pretty, average and ugly women get cheated on and guess what, pretty, average and ugly women have men who worship the ground they walk on and wouldn’t dare dream of leaving their side for anyone. Pretty women have their issues too, but folks are so STUCK on looks and STUPID, that they forget that there is a whole other person aside from the face and body when it comes to celebrities like these.

Any woman that believes that women like Halle and Christina are perfect in every aspect of their lives is delusional. Looks don’t keep a man by your side forever in a marriage; hard work, communication, love, trust, respect, loyalty, and commitment amongst other things do.

Looking like a celebrity most men want to wife has no bearing on whether you can snag a man and have him put a ring on it. If that were the case how did Khloe Kardashian snag Lamar so quickly when her most lusted over sister couldn’t even get a marriage proposal from her long term ex Reggie Bush?

Please tell me why dumbass comments like this are being RT as if it’s gospel. 

RT @JuliaBeverly: If christina milian, halle berry etc are getting cheated on, there's no hope for the rest of us

 The gospel according to The Book of ‘I’ve Been Shat on So Many Times By A Man, That I’m Just Gonna Curl Up and Die’ Chapter 3 Verse 10.

I don’t need to see that mess, and I don’t need to be exposed to the weak minds of bitter women who in 140 characters or less have pretty much told their whole timeline and then some that “if we ain’t Halle or Christina, we’re doomed.” F*** You and your narrow mind! Do you know how dangerous that is to impart that foolery into the minds of some women?

Some people need to speak for their damn “misery loves company” selves for real. Go and check the label ‘cheating’ on this blog, I have been cheated on, and I’ve also been treated royally. I refuse to let past experience or the experience of women who have graced my TV stop me from remaining faithful when it comes to relationships. I don’t know why I attracted that individual into my life nearly two years ago, but the downgrade in being with him, taught me a valuable lesson in the art of UPGRADING and remaining faithful for the future. I didn’t feel the need to really get over anything when it came to him or that relationship. My aim was to move on, and that I did. I kept my options well and truly open and remained TOTALLY FAITHFUL. I didn’t put any limitations on myself and my future due to past experiences, and never will. Can I call myself even more blessed now? The hell I can, but I’m not about to air my personal business out here, not in part anyway, even if to prove my point for a blog post.

Good men exist, bad men exist. Do NOT let the bad ones who are no longer in your lives have that much power over you to the point where you’re stuck, stagnant and afraid to move on. NO ONE has that much power over me, and never will, especially when they’re getting on with their lives and I am no longer a thought in theirs. Be OPEN to receiving something good great in your life and tell yourself you deserve it. Pray, manifest, meditate on the positive. Burn some damn sage if you have to and stop comparing yourself to Halle flippin Berry and the like. Chances are there is something within YOU that she’d desire for herself that goes far deeper than looks.

To the women who don’t believe that faithful men exist, please just stop dating, we’re tired of you and your pitiful stories pissing on everyone’s parade. There are faithful men out there, and you’re just too lazy and lack faith to be patient for God to work on him for you. You want, want, want, and are definitely NOT ready. And you wonder why he hasn’t come into your life? Let me tell you again, you’re NOT ready! I know it, the Universe knows it and God knows it. He’s moulding a man for you, but pauses, takes a peek into your mindset and goes:

“oh heaven naw!! Sista gurl you ain’t ready for this here man. I’m gonna need him to go to that faithful and patient sista waiting in line behind you as she’s deserving and remained faithful to me. As she remained faithful, she shall be rewarded.”

You can’t be ready with that negative mindset, so we don’t need you being a contributor to the 50% of failed marriages, thank you very much. A bitter minded woman with a good man? Errr No! Get yourself about 5 cats, sit in your rocking chair, knit some booties for the newborn babies of your friends born into a strong and healthy union, and call it a day!

To the men that think all your 3 billion plus homeboys on the planet are cheaters, think again. You don’t all cheat, some of the smart ones actually think cheating is for weak, disrespectful men. Just because you haven’t been raised and taught right, you want others to be in the exact same sinking boat as you. You know your ways are trifling and it bothers you to the pit of your soul that there are men out there who are better than you in that respect. So what do you do??? You spew out this crap to a bunch of women and have them believing it. You spew out this crap to your male friends telling them they need to get with X amount of women because loving and remaining faithful to just one ‘ain’t right or natural.’ You say these things so that you can justify your cheating ways due to your own insecurities and unhappiness. You’re not all the same and in fact you’re pretty much the on the lowest level on the totem pole. There will come a time one day when some of your trifling friends change their ways for the better get married and have a family unit. You just may desire this for yourself one day, but unfortunately you won’t be open to it, as night after night the only thing you’ll be open to is a new pair of legs. You all just need to get with the women who think all men cheat and remain dysfunctional together and let the ones remaining faithful and giving their relationships a real go alone.