Ask, Believe, Receive

I'm going through a ton of papers, documents, junk etc at the moment  and came across a ton of bright pink Post It Notes [which caused me to stop to write this blog] each with a goal or affirmation on it from over 2 years ago. As I was going through them I realised that some of them actually came to fruition, and at the time of writing them didn't know whether they would or not, but was determined to ask, believe and receive. Some are still a work in progress, others have changed slightly from my wants in 2007 to 2010, but most importantly my mind is opened and focused to recieving everything that's coming my way.

I refuse to put limitations on myself, my wants or my needs. I'm reminded and thankful every morning that if God has blessed me to wake me up to see another day, then he's not done with me yet. And if you're reading this then he's not done with you either.

I looked at some of the things I had written in 2007 and was amazed that I had actually done some of the things, and what I wanted and remained open to receiving actually came to pass. I spoke it into existence, believed it was mine/coming my way and went on about my business.

Whether you visualize, pray or do a mix of both, keep at it. Remain focused and believe that whatever you want is on it's way to you. Don't focus on the HOW it's coming to you, that just throws everything off balance, just know that it is coming to you. The 'how' is not your business or concern. Ask and believe that it's yours. Live in the moment like you have it, and if you can manage that, then it's already yours.

Law of Attraction, Valentine's Day & He's Just Not That Into You...Combined!

I'm a believer in God. A believer in positivity. And a firm believer that Valentine's Day is pure BS. I've already had my Valentine's Day rant.

For those, like me, who don't care for it over the course of the past 24 hours I've received 2 sources of 'makes sense' reading about Feb 14th and on what to expect from relationships now and going forward. Some of this way of thinking I already adopt in my life anyway **pats myself on the back,** but there are some that don't and need to, men and women alike.

One is courtesy of a link from Fashogi from CNN...Cheers mate! Do not adjust your PC resolution the brotha featured on that article does have a big ass head!

And the other is from my weekly Law of Attraction newsletter. [I've
highlighted the points which I agree with and get my head nodding, I'll add my own little tidbits below as well]. Both are good reads.

By Karen Luniw
He's just not that into you...

Recently the movie based on the book 'He's just not that into you' came out to theaters. What gets me wondering is whether people will finally get the message.

As a girl growing up, I was always desperate to be loved. I always had boyfriends and had no problems around that except for one thing....many of my boyfriends were absolutely no good for me or my self-esteem.

Of course, I attracted that because I had low self-esteem. Then, one day in my late 20's or early 30's, everything changed. I stopped looking for love and started enjoying being with me and finding out what I wanted from my life. [And this is why I say it's very important to enjoy that 'Me Time' post relationship, rather than jump into a new one hoping to fill the void from the last]
When Geoff came into my life shortly thereafter, I was ready for him...or at least pretty ready. You see, he called when he said he was going to call. He looked thrilled to see me and he was nice to me and excited to introduce me to his friends. [If you're having to chase, He's Just Not That Into You. Any man that wants you will make the effort. If he doesn't then don't even bother. But Please stop all of this calling him and bellowing into the phone "Why didn't you call me when you said you would?"]

What did I do? I kept looking for flaws - he was too good to be true, so much so that I almost started picking fights because I couldn't understand why he was so good to me and then I stopped. [I was doing this during my first and very long term relationship. After reading this it made sense as to why.] He was exactly what I had been hoping for but I had to grow into the person that could accept that level of love, sharing and intimacy. And I did, I just accepted that I was good enough to be treated well. Did you get that - I finally allowed myself to be treated well!! [Men and women alike need to adopt and remember this attitude. Trust me even I have thought why me? Why do you like me and want to talk to me, spend with, send sweet lovey dovey messages to, think about? You have to start developing and attitude and a mentality that says (a) Yes I am in his/her league [money and status aside] and (b) I am worthy of all of this attention and then some dammit!!

Every week I get emails from people who want a particular person in their life - usually someone that has already been in their life and has moved on. The writer usually wants to know how to get that person back. (And yes, I am so guilty of this in my past!)

It breaks my heart because everyone deserves to have the 'Mr. Right' or 'Miss Right'. What ends up happening is that the focus of these writers is on what is no longer a match for them. That's a focus on lack, not love. Dr. Phil said it the best - your boyfriend or girlfriend should be treating you as the special person you really are (or something along those lines!). In any case, all of us deserve to be treated wonderfully and if someone in your life isn't treating you that way - they don't deserve to be in your life. [Oh I have learnt the hard way. Or is it easy way where you see the 'he isn't treating me well' pattern and kick him to the curb, over seeing his behaviour and hoping it will change. It's true if you believe you are worthy, then believe you deserve to be treated as such!]

Get this - and especially for Valentine's Day - focus on the great times you had with the other person, focus on the qualities (not the person) that you loved and then focus on being good to yourself. If that person who is now gone is meant to be with you - they will be attracted back to you by the focus on the good stuff rather than the focus on getting them back. Truly, that rarely works out in the long run.

Also, get this....we all will move heaven and earth to be with the person we really want to be with and if someone is not doing that for you, don't make up excuses for them. They are not the right person for you and vice versa....period. [**slaps hand on table** tell it [white woman] sistah. Trust me when you are really feeling or in love with someone you will move heaven and earth. Or at least tried your hardest to do so. I want a make an effort man. Lazy men need not apply]
If you can do these few things and accept this new understanding into your consciousness you will turn a new page in your life and next Valentine's Day will ROCK!

You deserve the life of your dreams - make it happen! [Let the church say amen!!!]

Law Of Attraction

I've been a user of this on and off, [although now more on] for a long while now. The ladies over at LHCF always start a monthly thread on it and to read all of the inspiring testimonials gives me that buzz to incorporate it back into my life on a stronger level. I personally do not participate much, I like to keep the daily list of what I'm grateful for private. That's just me.

First things first, it's no cult or worship, you don't need to spend a dime as there are free resources everywhere and podcasts to listen to if you so choose. It's not specifically for believers of God, Allah or Krishna and a lot of the thought process and advice given [or teachings if you will] are inspired from the bible and other religious and non-religious works. If you're religious I find it can only assist and encourage you and if you're not then it will do the same for your personal life minus the religious element. It can go from the basic premise of the 'starter' book The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, to reading literature like the Master Key system, to the Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. Esther and Jerry Hicks, Dr Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay adorn my bookshelf with a few best selling titles that I nabbed in Amazon for half price. Like my relationship [with God] whether strained [from my end] or going extremely well, that along with this [LOA] I usually keep it personal and private because I find the opinions of others about how I choose to live my life which benefits me a tad grating and disrespectful. If you mention you believe in God then come the catty discussions about religion, wars and corrupt people. Seriously folks save it, I cannot be swayed. I can't speak for corrupt religious leaders, they have no bearing on me personally. The actions of a few make the majority look bad, the regular folks going on their daily business trying to do right spend so much energy have to defend their personal beliefs because over some nasty priests and the like who are nothing more than scum. And to be totally honest why do those who don't believe have a problem with those that do? [I may blog about this one day I'm sure] I for one am not bothered by atheists, agnostics and the like. Do you folks! Do you.
...but here I go digressing again.

Back to LOA. Ask. Believe. Receive. Sounds simple enough, not always when put into practise though. It takes a little bit of getting used to when you've asked and then you have to be open, faithful and positive that what you want shows up. I gave myself a little LOA challenge for December on the 1st of the month. When I'm not being lazy and only being thankful in my head [which still counts none the less] I write down everything I can think of for the day that I'm grateful for, read it over one more time then lock it along with the others in a perspex box. I guess physically I am counting my blessings. For me it's taking real time out to be grateful. It sounds easy but you have to be disciplined enough to take five minutes to write when all you want to do is retire to your bed for the night. I've noticed within myself I feel better the night before and have a better day following than if I don't do it.

So my little LOA challenge for December...I couldn't really think of anything I wanted so I made two requests. I wasn't going to go out of my way to really make it happen, simply ask, watch for signs and just be receptive to whatever good was coming my way. One was to make £700 outside of my salary this month [how I don't know, but I thought OK this will be a challenge as I'm not even doing any trading right about now]. The second was great news surrounding my current job or a new one on the way. It's currently 00:39 as I write this and got home at 00:05. My parents came by to pick up some DVDs I'd left in the porch when I was at work. On returning home my mum had left a brown envelope with 2 separate envelopes inside. One read Naomi important items inside. The other Naomi. Open with care from dad. And the other Naomi on the front and my initials NCM scrawled on the back. It's only me that lives here, but my mother wants to make sure I know these envelopes are for me right? **Go figure** In one I knew she had left a picture that I asked for of my cousin Ronni so no surprise there, and in each of the other two were gifts of money from each of my parents. I'm standing there just staring at the cash in my hallway thinking Holy Shit [and yes I called them and said thank you].

With regard to the job, well there was a meeting with the little team of the four of us and were told that we are splitting from our manager and moving to a new team. We will be there next month and possibly a bit longer into February or until further notice, which suits me fine because December 31st is supposed to be my last day. The calls on the agency front have been dead.

**NOT EVEN ANY CHIRPING CRICKETS**

Just straight up dead, and on Wednesday the lack of calls from agencies popped into my head but I quickly shifted that thought into a positive one and just said nonchalantly to myself. I'm going to get a call from an agency today. Not even 20 minutes and my phone rang about a contract job at BGI [perfect because I don't want to go perm]. She asked me how much I was on and said they should have no problem matching that, that it was based in the City [Canary Wharf is too far] and that they are a really great team to work for and all the people that they place there really love working for them. With some firms this is true and I haven't heard a consultant speak so highly about a firm in a long time.

What I wrote on the card was specific to location, pay, the people and flexibility in time off [for my holidays]. The job they put me forward for ticked all of the boxes which I specified twelve days ago.

I blogged about writing a book a few days ago. Well I've started, I have the idea but will tell you another lil story before bed. That same day I had come up with a title 'In The Eye of the Beholder.' For what it was about [which I'm not divulging until I make sure I'm in the know 100% about copyright] that title was already taken a few times over [which I know is not a problem] and quite frankly I had gone off it and wasn't feeling it anymore. So I went to sleep on it. As soon as I woke up the next day the perfect title came into my head. Before I had even gotten up out of the bed.

The title is the name of a song and album by a very famous British band. I decided the main character was going to be named partially after that song title as the mother is a fan of the group and the album was released 2 days before she [main character] was born in 1979. Even now two days on, I'm happy with the title and it will stick. So I'm sitting on the train that very night and plots and characters have been in my head the whole time. I'm going through the purchased section of songs from Itunes. Now I take ALL of the free songs and videos that Itunes offer on the homepage. I don't even know the song titles or artists. I don't even care what genre it is. Every Monday I check for the Free tab click it whilst sipping a hot chocolate not even paying attention and never listen to them. Black people will take freeness, it's a fact. So I have about 100+ of those crappy songs accumulated over 2 years by underground artists trying to get recognition from Free Download of the Week. I'm hitting the buttons with my Ipod in my pocket not even looking at it and stop on #18 and listen. "Hold up a second what the hell is this old time song?" It sounded familiar as I'd been humming it when I went on Wikipedia to find out a little background into the song for research into the title. As God is my witness it was the same song playing, which was also the same title of the book and my characters name I came up with that morning. I have never willingly downloaded any of this group's music of the 3,000+ songs I have on my ipod but it seems one week Itunes went way back to 79 and had a free oldie. I downloaded that on 15th October [the info tells me] without a second thought...a couple of clicks and probably left the room to do something else.

All in all, I'll see how it goes from here on now. Look one 3x5 index card, a pen and a little positivity and faith surely isn't hurting me right about now.

Law Of Attraction In Effect Perhaps?

Like I've blogged before I haven't been reading the papers on purpose or watching the news, however somebody's free paper on the Tube journey on the way home last night caught my eye when I saw that Richard Branson was teaming up with Air Asia to do cheap one way flights to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia for £99. Should I do an on the spur of the moment booking for next October??? Hmmmmmmmm

So I grab a spare copy on the train for the sole purpose to read about the flights and hot foot it to the over ground station.

Back up about 10 hours earlier around 9am and I'm in the shower blasting a Coldplay song from their new album in the house, and I'm there thinking "It would great if Coldplay hooked up with Jay-Z and did a concert together."
Fast forward to 19:12 that very same day - Low and behold I'm at Victoria train station and an image of Jay-Z flashes up on the big screen TV on Sky News I didn't have my contact lenses in so I couldn't read the headline and my train was leaving in 3 minutes and had no time for that although I wanted to know why was my beloved Jigga in the news. I open the paper on the train and see an advertisement that just jumps out at me. The tickets for the Coldplay and Jay-Z concert go on sale this Friday morning at 9:30am!!

As God is my witness I had heard of no talks of this collaboration happening at all anywhere, but to just think it that morning and then BAM see the advertisement in the paper about the Wembley Stadium gig next September, I felt like one of those crazy women with cats who could see into the future.

Strange things like this happen all the time to me. I was 'chatting' with a MySpace buddy this weekend I went to college with him 13 years ago and I lost contact a friend of both of ours. So he messages me back saying he'd really like to get in contact with Peter and Gavin as they were his old skool crew. I said I'd keep a look out. Fast forward to yesterday, now bare in mind I've lived in the area for 21 years and see the same faces all the time. I take the same 7 minute walk to the train station and pass the same people like it's Groundhog Day. So this week I'm on the new late shift we're implementing at work and leave around 9:30 ish. Who the hell passes me by looking dead on in my face, none other than Gavin who knows Peter [who I had an old e-mail address for which is about 2 years old and I know from speaking to Peter that him and Gavin are still tight] and they both know Mr MySpace and we all went to the same college together and hung out together sometimes. I was in such shock I just carried on walking thinking "No wayyyyyyyy!".

This morning I was running for the train but left 10 minutes earlier, again like Groundhog Day I see Gavin again. I didn't even have the time to stop and ask him for an e-mail or phone number. I mean just two days ago Mr MySpace mentions his boy from 13 years ago and now two days running we pass each other, looking but not saying anything. If I see him tomorrow I'll say something.

How bizarre!!!