Partners that is? In this modern day age it's obvious that thoughts, views and opinions relating to sex are even more liberal and relaxed than they ever have been before.Double standards still exist. The most common one being for men is that it's OK and deemed normal to have many sexual partners in a lifetime, and for a woman it reeks of just being a straight up whore. To me personally there are no double standards, a promiscuous man and a promiscuous woman are equally promiscuous. My views and thoughts on them are exactly the same.
Then there is the saying that goes "women cannot have sex without emotions getting in the way, it's just not possible." There maybe some truth to that. Outside of a drunken stupor how many women in the right frame of mind have felt absolutely 0% of feeling and emotion toward the man they are willingly having sex with? I think it's far easier for men to detach themselves and just see it as a physical act, but for women this is a much harder feat to achieve.
I know of a girl who I think was about 28 at the time who admitted to having over 100 partners. It was one of those girly 'drink up' evenings at my house and I just knew after that admission what was going through some of the minds of my long terms friends sitting in that room with me. So much so I was right when one said after she had left, "after you've had that many you might as well just charge them for it. What difference does it make?" And she may have a point, 100 partners, before you're 30 and as a woman at that I would advise anyone that horny to seriously just call it a day and make a living out of it and get paid.
When probed deeper [no pun intended], I found out during a summer working at one of those 18-30 holiday resorts in or near Spain that she thought she'd had about 40 or so that summer, some involved group and girly action too. To actually pose the question after the #100 admission "do you think that's a lot?" especially when some had said their husband was their only or another had admitted to having 3 or 4 partners in a lifetime, was absolutely shocking. You seriously don't think having over 100 men in your cooch and God knows where else is a lot? Sorry luv, you seriously need a wake up call. If she was my friend I'd actually need to seriously have a talk about her lifestyle rather than just sitting there smiling like a special needs Cheshire Cat whilst your friend is being grilled and roasted by a group of young women.
In my 29 years on this earth as a woman I have learned enough to categorically say that "a lot of women chat pure bullshit and are about nothing more than the bullshit." Women are so in competition with men these days it's actually quite scary and in a lot of respects sad. There is a reason why men are from Mars and women are from Venus, because they are two different places entirely. Keep your ass on your own damn planet! I hear the office stories of dejected and rejected women, and I sit in front of a guy who has no women problems after his weekend trysts with the ladies. Women over the past few years are really trying to pack their bags and move to the same planet that men come from and it's not working. Drinking yourselves into a drunken stupor and actually thinking it's impressive that you snogged [kissed] some random guy, brought him back to yours for a one night stand, or think because men get away with the personal attacks from sleeping around and are given a high five for their antics that it's now OK and acceptable to do the same. A woman who is comfortable with her own sexuality is one thing, a woman who claims she is comfortable with her blase approach to sex and have many multiple partners on the go thinks she's actually gaining respect for this new type of radical thinking noughties feminism we are now experiencing, she is not. From speaking with and working with a lot of men, I know exactly what they think and feel toward women like this, and lets just say, repsect and admiration is extremely far down the list, if even on it at all. A guy who himself has had a lot of partners or engages in casual sex doesn't necessarily want a woman to call his wife one day of somebody that has been around the block.There is always 'the past is the past' element with regard to sex. Do you or don't you admit to your current squeeze when asked, the number of partners you've had? Should the fact remain that you are faithful to him or her and that you are clean [from sexual infections and diseases] account for something and be left at that? Some people really want to know, some ask, and some do tell. For some people and I'm sure this may apply to men as well because I honestly haven't asked my male friends this, but asking this question is more about finding out from your other half's sexual past if they are to be a worthy part of your future, rather than just being nosey. It's like getting in advance an idea of where you may potentially stand with somebody who refrains from sex solely for people they fall in love with or those that compete in it as a national sport.
I'll be honest if I found out a guy I was dating admitted he had changed his ways but had slept with over 100 women, I wouldn't be so comfortable knowing this or being with him. Some of the things going through my mind would be:
- Are any of these women still in contact.
- Did he cheat on any with another one.
- Did any of these sexual conquests result in a child/children, whether born or not.
- Did he ever contract and STI or pass one onto any of them.
- How many of these women were group encounters.
- What seriously makes having sex with me any different or special from Miss 1-100???
I think for a man some of these questions would be the same. It would only be normal and human to have reservations about starting up a relationship with a man who's idea of sex seemed to be a regular pastime and nothing meaningful or special.
Back to the women and bullshit theory. This same girl admitted to having no shame in her game. BULLSHIT! So why when we are at the club you dragged me off the dance floor in mid flow to hide behind my 5'8 frame whilst you were hiding from a past sexual conquest? After he found you and spoke to you, you looked like you wanted to curl up and die. That doesn't reek to me of a sexually confident woman who has no shame in her game. If you sleep with a lot of men, honey let's be real here, you are bound to bump into him fully clothed at some point.
Remember Samantha Jones? Now there was no shame in her game. When the girls were out and they'd spot a cute guy, Samantha would have no problem in proclaiming ever so casually whilst sipping her Martini "I fucked him." And him and him and him and every other a episode was a past encounter for Samantha. Now I never agreed with Samantha's sex life and numerous partners, but I admired her because she did what she wanted and made no excuses for it. She really wasn't about the bullshit. Even when she experimented and became a part-time lesbian she was ever so proud and felt no shame in her admissions. Samantha represented a woman that I feel so many wanted to be like, although many followed they couldn't get past the emotional detachment element that Samantha possessed. Miss Jones is fabulous, beautiful, successful and acts like a man [sexually] and has no inhibitions or regrets toward sex, and rarely did she. She fell in love twice over 6 seasons with Richard and Smith, and Samantha rarely had a man stay over, and rarely was he a long term project in her boudoir. She ended up breaking her foot in an episode when Smith tried to hold her hand. After all the men Samantha had been with that was just too much intimacy for her. She backed off, stumbling backwards landing on a pile of fruit.
She was so detached from emotion she even told Smith to just sleep with whoever he wanted on location for a movie. She soon retracted when she discovered her feelings for him were more than just that of a sexual nature.
Women like Samantha Jones, don't have man trouble, wait for him to call, expect expensive gifts or trips around the world. They aren't expecting or even want a marriage proposal or children. They don't do any other intimacy other than sex, and they'd much prefer a post coital sleep over having a cuddle and a talk post orgasm.
If you are finding that after your multiple sexcapdaes with men or women are leaving you wanting more than just the sex, then maybe the bullshit theory applies to you that you are indeed kidding yourselves over just what it is you are doing. The new age idea of casual sex being fun and great doesn't last very long especially for the women. Ladies if you're going to go the route of "It's just about the sex" it should mean just that. So stop with the depression and the teary eyes when he doesn't call or professing to your girlfriends that he is indeed a dog who got what he wanted when you gave him what you wanted. And stop hiding from him if you see him in the street. It's tiresome. A "hello, how are you?" will suffice and keep it moving. Running away from a past conquest = a regretful and embarrased woman hiding from a sexual mistake.
Contrary to popular belief no amount of great sex is going to make a man want to be with you. Yes he may keep coming back for more but that's because well...the sex is great and my dear to him you may just be an easy lay. Just because he's sleeping with you do not confuse this for he actually respects you and wants to be with you for the long term either. Like women, men want women that tick all of the right boxes. So please give them some credit. They too are looking for a woman that they can connect with on all levels imaginable, and when you give them too much in the form of sex at the drop of a hat then you are leaving not a lot for them to go out and chase for themselves and even desire. Men don't want to work too hard and do all of the work but they do love the thrill of the chase and finding out about you as a person and what's on the inside emotionally for them is just as important if not more [sometimes] about the physical.
Back to the women and bullshit theory. This same girl admitted to having no shame in her game. BULLSHIT! So why when we are at the club you dragged me off the dance floor in mid flow to hide behind my 5'8 frame whilst you were hiding from a past sexual conquest? After he found you and spoke to you, you looked like you wanted to curl up and die. That doesn't reek to me of a sexually confident woman who has no shame in her game. If you sleep with a lot of men, honey let's be real here, you are bound to bump into him fully clothed at some point.
Remember Samantha Jones? Now there was no shame in her game. When the girls were out and they'd spot a cute guy, Samantha would have no problem in proclaiming ever so casually whilst sipping her Martini "I fucked him." And him and him and him and every other a episode was a past encounter for Samantha. Now I never agreed with Samantha's sex life and numerous partners, but I admired her because she did what she wanted and made no excuses for it. She really wasn't about the bullshit. Even when she experimented and became a part-time lesbian she was ever so proud and felt no shame in her admissions. Samantha represented a woman that I feel so many wanted to be like, although many followed they couldn't get past the emotional detachment element that Samantha possessed. Miss Jones is fabulous, beautiful, successful and acts like a man [sexually] and has no inhibitions or regrets toward sex, and rarely did she. She fell in love twice over 6 seasons with Richard and Smith, and Samantha rarely had a man stay over, and rarely was he a long term project in her boudoir. She ended up breaking her foot in an episode when Smith tried to hold her hand. After all the men Samantha had been with that was just too much intimacy for her. She backed off, stumbling backwards landing on a pile of fruit.She was so detached from emotion she even told Smith to just sleep with whoever he wanted on location for a movie. She soon retracted when she discovered her feelings for him were more than just that of a sexual nature.
Women like Samantha Jones, don't have man trouble, wait for him to call, expect expensive gifts or trips around the world. They aren't expecting or even want a marriage proposal or children. They don't do any other intimacy other than sex, and they'd much prefer a post coital sleep over having a cuddle and a talk post orgasm.
If you are finding that after your multiple sexcapdaes with men or women are leaving you wanting more than just the sex, then maybe the bullshit theory applies to you that you are indeed kidding yourselves over just what it is you are doing. The new age idea of casual sex being fun and great doesn't last very long especially for the women. Ladies if you're going to go the route of "It's just about the sex" it should mean just that. So stop with the depression and the teary eyes when he doesn't call or professing to your girlfriends that he is indeed a dog who got what he wanted when you gave him what you wanted. And stop hiding from him if you see him in the street. It's tiresome. A "hello, how are you?" will suffice and keep it moving. Running away from a past conquest = a regretful and embarrased woman hiding from a sexual mistake.
Contrary to popular belief no amount of great sex is going to make a man want to be with you. Yes he may keep coming back for more but that's because well...the sex is great and my dear to him you may just be an easy lay. Just because he's sleeping with you do not confuse this for he actually respects you and wants to be with you for the long term either. Like women, men want women that tick all of the right boxes. So please give them some credit. They too are looking for a woman that they can connect with on all levels imaginable, and when you give them too much in the form of sex at the drop of a hat then you are leaving not a lot for them to go out and chase for themselves and even desire. Men don't want to work too hard and do all of the work but they do love the thrill of the chase and finding out about you as a person and what's on the inside emotionally for them is just as important if not more [sometimes] about the physical.
What's my take personally [for myself] on promiscuity and a bunch of partners?
