Say What??? Tweet of the Day!

Yes folks, I had to read it more than once also!

He's still trying to defend his crazy 'cooking' method

Mariah Teases Fans with First Glimpse of Baby Monroe Cannon

Global chart topping singer-songwriter Mariah Carey took to her Twitter page earlier today and gave fans around the world the first glimpse of one of her and hubby Nick Cannon's newborn twins Monroe Cannon. Monroe & Moroccan Scott Cannon were born on Mariah & Nick's 3rd Wedding anniversary two months ago on 30th April 2011. 

Gabrielle Union Posts 'Weave Free' Pictures on Twitter at The Salon

Academy Award winning Actress Gabrielle Union took to her Twitter page a few days ago [yes I'm late] and posted pictures of her weave free hair. 

Foxgate: Straight Violation!

Whilst some of you slept, couldn't give a toss, or weren't even on Twitter this picture went viral on the Social Networking site. 20,700+ views and 15 hours later this is the most famous fox on the Internet right now.

Sick or Treat? Lala Vazquez-Anthony Posts Picture on Twitter Fully Made Up!

Pull the other one Lala! Who lays in their bed with a face full of make up on complaining that they are sick, takes a picture on their BlackBerry and then posts it on Twitter?

Ahh yes, one who does it for a self esteem boost so their followers can RT and say how pretty you look.

Being the BFF of Kim Kardashian is obviously rubbing off on the....on the....on the....

...what does she do again?

Let's Talk About Sex...

They knew exactly what they were thinking when they chose that paddle!

...err how about we don't.

I am far from being a prude, trust me on that one, but it seems like in this day and age it's the 'fashion' to talk about your sex life on Twitter/Facebook or any other place where people [may] pay attention to you.

I've spoken with friends about these 'Twitter antics', I've also tweeted the odd @ reply or DM [Direct Message] to other people on Twitter about the same said thing and not a lot of people are impressed by it or the usernames who feel the need to constantly chat about it.

If it's not that, it's people on BBM [Blackberry Messenger] posting sexual picture after sexual picture, or telling us in their status they want, are about to, or have just had some [sex]. 

I mean WHAT THE F*** IS THIS SERIOUSLY? 

I equate this to one of the highest forms of attention seeking f**kery. Well you got my attention, I find you pathetic! 

Moving on...

Some people are on a tip that they feel the more they talk about sex, or seem open about sex that they are some type of liberal sexpert, and anyone that doesn't agree or like what they do is a prude bordering on being a nun. 

It's not about that at all, it's more a case of:

• We don't want to know about your sex life as it's extremely boring to us, and quite frankly we aren't impressed.
• You may be getting some, but we don't believe you're any good at it, based on your incessant bragging.
• Whether some of us are saving it for marriage or having sex outside of marriage, some of us realise the IMPORTANCE of keeping a vast majority of our relationships/unions PRIVATE, and don't see the need for it to be cheapened in 140 characters or less for strangers to know about.
• We respect our partners and don't feel the need to chat our business which is essentially their business too.
• We just don't give a f***!!

Carrie Bradshaw - Sex & The City

As wonderful as Sex & The City was, I think some women got the wrong end of the stick [no pun intended] 6 seasons and 2 movies later and tried to become their very own Samantha Jones, or chat their arses off like Carrie and use Twitter and Facebook as their very own sex column. It doesn't work ladies. Running your mouth doesn't equate to being sexually liberated. We CHOSE to park our asses in front of the TV for 22 minute episodes, and paid to see the movies voluntarily. When I sit down in the morning and go through my timeline, I don't want to get visuals of your boney arse bonking your boyfriend, talking about how sore you are, or making references to semen whilst eating my bagel.

Sex is intimate. Save that intimate part of your relationship for your damn selves and don't be so quick to pick up your phone and tweet that element of it to a 657 strangers. We're not impressed, we actually think you have little to no shame to be quite honest. Even the ones probably egging you on to continue talking about it think the same and just wanna be 'all up in your business'. And speaking of being 'all up in your business', if you're going to be sharing those intimate parts of your relationship with strangers, please don't get mad if people ever ask you questions pertaining to your relationship. After talking about your sex life, are you really in a position to be demanding respect for your privacy?

I think not!

Attention Seeking: Karma & The Bitch

The attention seeking is astounding. If it's not celebrities on Twitter re-tweeting compliment after compliment from 'fans', people posting 200 new pictures a day from their night out on Facebook, or people just chatting their personal business on social networking sites, the level of attention seeking is becoming way too much.

I use Twitter on a daily basis, and have got back into checking in with Facebook on the regular again too. When my new love (Twitter) came on the scene I abandoned Facebook like a worthless ex-boyfriend. Now we seem able to happily co-exist once again after working out our issues and we are now on an even keel.

There is one person in particular (a female) on Facebook whose mission it seems is to humiliate her boyfriend PUBLICLY. Now as a woman, it doesn't make me 'pro-woman' to everything  that we do. A wrong is a wrong in my eyes, and that's just how I see it whether you're black or white, male or female. In this case this heffer is just dead wrong!

From what I can see, this guy seems really sweet and is trying to communicate with her. In a day and age where there are so many men trying to cover up their public feelings and emotions for their women for fear of looking like pussies, this guy didn't care. He seemed really good for her and her off key psychotic state of mind. Shit, they say there's someone for everybody (I don't believe that), but even nutcases need love too I suppose.

She is ignoring every form of communication with him. She adds a picture, he 'likes' it. Tells her he loves her. She ignores him. Tells her he misses her. She ignores him. She writes a status, he comments, she talks to everyone else BUT him in the comments. Other guys come on there telling her how hot she is, she's arranging meet ups with said dudes on her damn wall. I'm shaking my head like 'nah son this ain't right, and I CAN SEE WHY you (the female) got cheated on in your last relationship if this is how you carried on.

This isn't a one day thing, this has been going on for a weeks. I can't stop watching, as it's become a case of will she acknowledge him coupled with what's gonna happen next? Almost like a reality TV show being played out on Facebook.

Why put all your business out there?

Why play the dude like that?

From my Facebook status today

This guy is allowed to be lovesick, but he's not a pest, and I say that because she has the option to remove AND block him. She doesn't. She's keeping him around on a tight leash to purposely humiliate him and that just isn't right. Are you that starved of attention and affection that you need to treat someone like that, AND do it publicly? I tell you if the roles were reversed and a guy did that to me, I'd screen print his crap as evidence and remove myself from his page and his life to avoid further humiliation. What next, being humiliated in a public place? YOU.CAN.ALWAYS.DO.BETTER!

Men are not the only ones capable of being a bastard in a relationship, and this right here is case in point. I understand that sometimes people need that time to themselves whether it's bullshit on your mind, PMS, other hormonal crap going on that's putting you in bad funk, that you just want to be alone. She's not having one of those days. She's having one of those months!

I have a STRONG feeling that this chick (woman is too powerful of a word to use for her) is going to have a shitty year. And come December 30th and 31st she'll be leaving FB status messages about just how shit the year was and that 2012 is going to be her year. It won't be, unless she severely learns some serious lessons in life, about the way to treat people and actually remove negativity from her entire existence. But saying that, I think she'll always be about the bullshit. One of those women who thinks screaming and shouting is effective in relationships and as long as they are both doing it then the relationship is somewhat functional.

I personally DO NOT CARE if she is reading this. I REALLY DON'T. I actually hope that she or someone like her does and actually acknowledges their bullshit and does something to fix it and not treat people who dedicate their lives in trying to make you happy, like absolute shit! Karma works and is ALWAYS in effect. What you put out, you get back equally unto you in some way. Remember that!

I'm no saint myself, but I tell you this, I'm aware of God, the power of how The Universe works and karma. I sit and think very hard before I do certain things because I know within my heart of hearts it's NOT the right thing to do and do not want the negative repercussions happening to me.

I might just say a prayer for Mr X and put him on my prayer list, cause I'm feeling real sorry for him right about now, and he needs out of that situation. It's not love, it's not respect, and from what I see he seems heartbroken. Cut him loose, let him get over it and find a woman willing to work things out with, rather than hit him over the head Madea style with an emotional skillet. If he's a genuinely good guy, it's women chicks like this who can turn these men into the men that real women don't want....a scorned man. It works both ways with women too. 

"Gettin' Madea wid it!"

Over dinner last night with Mrs H in Satay Bar Brixton, she told me when it comes to love you give that person so much power to hurt you by allowing yourself to be so open and trusting them with all that you have. And that when it comes to loving someone especially within marriage it really is a leap of faith. 

Well his dude needs to act froggish leap his way on out the damn door and go and find someone worthy of his time. 

Time is precious. Life is too short. So find someone worthy of both, your time and your life! ~LondonDiva

Don't Ask...Cause I'm Not Telling

It has been much longer that 'a while' since I last posted, not because I don't have anything to say, but more so because I have a lot to say. I realise that not everything going on in my life needs to be documented for one and all to see all of the time.

One thing a lot of people have taught me over the recent months, is to keep my personal business private, although I already knew this. Social Networking/Internet has taken an element of privacy out people's lives and made it public knowledge on the World Wide Web. It now gets to a point where you can't escape it.

I remember a time where I used to just tell my immediate family and friends when I was going away on holiday. You know, do the usual, send them my travel information, let them know when I was going and when I'd be back. Now it seems like just because you have people added to your Blackberry or follow some folks on Twitter and keep them amused on a daily basis they now feel the need to be informed of your whereabouts if you suddenly 'disappear.'

For the record...if I go on holiday/take a break from being online people know where I am, and God forbid if something happens to me the people who I would want at my funeral know where I went in the first place. Morbid, but true.

I have a blog, Twitter and Facebook account, I live by myself and don't answer to anyone and am entitled to a certain amount of privacy. I feel and think that some people think that just because you are in contact with them via these means that somehow all of a sudden 'we is family.' We are not!

I was off Twitter for a few weeks and came back to a whole heap of  "where is LondonDiva?" tweets. LondonDiva was not on Twitter, that's all folks needed to know. Like I said those who needed to know knew, and unlike some people I don't feel this burning desire to tweet when I'm going to be off and for how long. You know how black women are "don't ask me where I'm going, I'm gonna be where I'm at."*cue neckroll* 

For a moment looking at all those tweets I was frustrated. Don't get me wrong I understand some people were concerned considering I tweet 100+ times a days then all of a sudden nothing, but still my thing was "who are you? I don't know your first or last name? You don't have my phone number, so is it really concern or is your claat just being nosy?" Could have been either or, but I wasn't in the mood to be checking in with the online world. I checked in the offline world and that was more than enough for me.

Whenever we want, sometimes we are allowed to escape, bugger off and just 'do us' in peace. Have a tranquil moment, do whatever the hell we like, and as much as we may appreciate the concern, sometimes we just don't want to be bothered. I don't want to come back answering questions about where I was. So I don't and I won't. On top of that, I'm not a 'centre of attention' type of person regardless of what you may think, I don't need to announce things 24/7 and have all eyes on me, I like to keep an element of my life private.

In this age of the Internet, I refuse to lose myself to a load of usernames belonging to people I have never met and probably aren't likely to either. Some people put so much of their business out there that even online personal space is being invaded, where folks step to you behind a username asking you where you were. "Err excuse me? Who the f*** is you?" That's like some random who takes the same train as me everyday coming up to me saying "I haven't seen you on this train in a few weeks, where were you?" Don't get it twisted just because you pressed a few buttons and decided to follow me on Twitter. 

In the real world (offline) I'm not telling my co-workers shit. In the online world I'm not telling my followers shit....unless I choose to.

So the moral of the story is...don't ask me shit. I'll tell it, if I wanna tell it, when I wanna tell it.

And to some of you out there, stop chatting your bloody relationship business on that damn thing. Especially the women. Some things are sacred you know and should remain that way Just don't get mad when people start getting in your business and you wonder why. Here's the answer...cause you chat it so much you've pretty much made it their business as they're all up in yours.

Time For A Quickie!

If I'm going to be a little absent for the next few weeks at least there will be this blog post letting you know that I haven't abandoned it, or the readers. I love my blog I really do, so that's not going to change anytime soon. To be honest sometimes my 'addiction' to keeping my blog updated daily can eat into other things as well.

I have some things going on [good great things] that are eating away at my time as well as helping out a friend with a 'website project thingy' of his, which I'm buzzed for. So really just want to focus on that as much as I can for now.

I'll post the odd blog here and there because there is plenty of foolery I'm seeing outta road, reading on Twitter that needs the signature LD rant to go along with it. Some of those fools on Twitter I swear, I can't even be bothered to address, just mute, un-follow or straight block. When you clear away the f**kery even on a social networking site, you're left with the wise and the humourous ones. PEACE AT LAST!!!

So far for me, it's been an interesting and positive week. It really has been, and it can only get better! It WILL get better.

BIG Thanks to all those that have subscribed in the box to the right for the blog straight to your e-mail...I see you [only in numbers though]. I added that about 2-3 weeks ago the numbers went from 1 to 11 subscribers via Feedburner last week, and just had a peep and it's now in the 3 figures. [I do have other followers via Google I just don't have that widget thing anymore]. Well there's something on here you like, and I'm glad to have you here because of it.

If I'm not on here you can always catch me on Twitter. Follow. Say hello...you know how it works. But please if you're one of those people [namely female] that come on there yapping about being single, heartbroken, or flappin her gums about her man 24/7/365, don't bother...I'm tired of women and their man related tweets every friggin minute. The odd occassion is fine, you got a good man big him up, but if your Twitter account is pure man this, pure man that, come off man! Get a real hobby besides worshipping the penis! 

And to some of the bitter fellas on Twitter, go sort out your issues with your mother, those coming on there with their Black women ain't sh** tweets...don't make me use the location map under your tweet, track you down and go all Madea on you. Call a shrink and sort it out. Not our fault you never latched onto the breast and bonded.

Anyway, till the next blog post which could be tomorrow, next week, who knows....have a great weekend folks. 

Stay busy.

Stay productive.

Stay focused.

Stay blessed.

Stay faithful.

LD x

I'm Surprised Kanye Didn't Fire His A**!!

I was looking at the pics Kanye had posted on his Twitter, and thought to myself, Look at Mr West lookin' all fly n sh**, getting ready to fly out on the 'baby mama jet' [his words, not mine].

Then I peeped something oh so wrong with the picture...

...Answer me this "how you are going to be on Kanye West's payroll and looking like you just bought your footwear from Primark brotha man on the left?" Pure house slipper looking shoes to boot [no pun intended].

The played out FroHawk could have been fixed up a little nicer, but he killed it stone cold dead with THOSE SHOES with THAT SUIT pictured with THAT MAN.

Maybe Kanye is a lot more easy going that we think, we all know Diddy wouldn't be tolerating that kind of foul-foot wearing bitchassness around him and would have fired him in an instant.

I don't care how much those shoe things cost. They aren't suitable for that suit. He just brought the whole look and feel of that shot down tenfold!

..and he's got the nerve to lean back and cock out his foot, like he's bussin' style!

Fall back. Lean Back. Exit stage left. Do a 360. Start over!

Photo: @KanyeWest

PHOTOS: Kanye West Visits Twitter Headquarters

First a visit to Facebook HQ, and now onto Twitter HQ Kanye goes. Looks like Mr West is using his business head and getting the best promotion that he can for himself and his latest upcoming project. I'm not mad at him, do your thing brotha man. Hey, if you're smart and bold enough to use the two most popular Social Networking sites in the world to capitalise on your popularity, then go for it I say.

He dissed Twitter hard refusing to be a part of the micro-blogging site claiming he was too busy. Now watch them [@Twitter] all welcoming Kanye with open arms at Twitter HQ with his an already verified Twitter account waiting for him to tell us all how great he is.

In less than 24 hours he has 200,000 followers. At my time of posting last night about Kanye's Twitter arrival he had 46,111 followers in 3 hours. Still seeing how long it will take him to hit a million.

Only on a visit at Twitter HQ can Kanye make it look like a GQ fashion shoot. I must say he does look very dapper and handsome. Nice to see a brotha not showing his underwear, knowing how to wear a suit, and wearing it well. Ruben Studdard take note.

Photos: Jillian West

Kanye West On Twitter & That Infamous George Bush Outburst!

“Mr West is in the building...”

...the Twitter building that is. Funnily enough I was actually thinking just a few days ago, "when is Kanye going to jump on board the Twitter bandwagon?"

Today is the day folks.

I really hope he’s just as arrogant on Twitter as he is in real life. Why? I have a penchant for cocky, arrogant folks, especially ones who are actually talented. Plus he's comedy...even when he's trying not to be. 

How long it will take for Kanye to reach 1,000,000 followers?
How long before Kanye has his first Twitter outburst?
How long before Kanye tells another celeb on Twitter "hold on, I'mma let you finish, but I tweeted the greatest tweet of all time?"
How long before Kanye shuts down his account complaining about all the 'haters?' Only to set another one up demanding Twitter restore all of his followers, tweet count and content?

The #1 person on Twitter with the most followers is Britney Spears. Kayne is NOT going to like that at all, even though it took him over three years to join, on day 1 you know he expects to have 6 million followers in 24 hours.

As I write this, in 3 hours Kanye has 46,111 followers. Let's see how long before he breaks the 1 million mark, and gets into the Top 10 most popular celebs on Twitter.

Blast From The Past:

The look on Mike Myers face is STILL priceless to this day. A very emotional Kanye deviates from the autocue to go on his infamous George Bush rant. Mike is saying in his head "This is NOT on the autocue. Oh my Jesus.....Let me proceed to occassionally look at Mr West...to the people...to Mr West...to the people...nod....no not at that part....OK I can nod at that part....holy shit we're live...I can't do a damn thing...If I stand real still maybe no one will even notice I'm here!" 

Follow Kanye West on Twitter 

Que From Day 26 & THAT Twitter Proposal: Dawn’s Response

It’s very rare that you’ll find any celebrity couple from the A to the Z list in black on black GENUINE love these days. Find a young couple who are ‘sort of’ celebs, then one half of it gots ta f*** it up and bring shame upon the Nubian Union.

I read about it on Twitter but I didn’t even go and take a look at the damn tom foolery proposal Que made to Dawn. 

There are things I really try/have tried to avoid blogging about.

• Michael Jackson’s death.
• Tiger Woods and his sexcapadaes.
• The crazy rantings of Mel Gibson.
• This bitchass marriage proposal on Twitter.

With the last one. I CANNOT remain silent. You see, the Twitter proposal was bad enough, then I peeped what ol' boy Que actually wrote on Twitter. Prepare yourself with the serious amount of bitchassness that’s about to occur in less than 140 characters.

“I want tha hole world 2 kno ur mind forever…. Will u Marry Me……..I love you.”

Mutha F***a what in the Sam Hill of living hell here on earth was that old negroid proposal?? 

Does he want US to know about Dawn’s mind or know that 'your're mine'? For real?

HOLE world??

MIND forever??

**Blinks countless times**

Did this man-bitch even get his GED?? Sh**, did he even attend Kindergarten??

With spaces, that tweet was 76 characters. Twitter allows you 140. This nucca is so lazy he can’t even propose on Twitter correctly and utilize it to its full potential. Don’t get it twisted now, there is NO CORRECT WAY TO PROPOSE ON TWITTER, as it is all so many kinds of wrong, but he had to go all ghetto and f*** it up with ignorant spelling. For something so wrong, he could have made it just a little bit right.

“I want the whole world to know you’re mine forever…. Will you Marry Me……..I love you.”

Now had he spelt every word correctly as per LondonDiva did above, it would have been 85 characters in total. Lazy in the proposal, lazy in the marriage is what I say. You ask a woman to spend the rest of her life with you, and only you, and that’s how you do it? Good luck with that Dawn. I don’t admire that. In fact I feel sorry and embarrassed for you.

No woman should be marrying any man that is:

a)     Too lazy to propose to you that he has to do it on Twitter.

b)     Uses slang or Ebonics to carry out that marriage proposal.

c)      Cannot even spell.

d)     Doesn’t know the difference between hole/whole/mind/mine.

However, if you think that sh** is cute, then you’re arses deserve each other, but I ask you to refrain from pro-creating with your dumb as rocks chromosome carrying selves.

This is what Dawn had to say about it all. [source: VIBE]

“He talked about it to me but I didn’t know he was gonna do that. I feel that’s between him and I but I’m happy that he’s happy with me and that’s all I’ll say about that.”

“You guys will know soon enough. Right now, I think Qwanell is such a loving person that he just wants to tell the world all the time what goes on between me and him and that was a surprise to me and I love him for that. But I’m more of a private person. You guys will find out when it’s time. I do love him and I do think he’s my soulmate.”

“Right now what’s important is Dirty Money and Last Train to Paris,”

Oh my sweet baby Hay-Soos, this man-bitch name is Qwanell…somebody beat me with a black ghetto baby name book right now!!

Something tells me Dawn said no to that Twitter proposal and told her man to fix up.

I’m sure Que loves Dawn very much, but that is NOT the way to propose to your lady. Fix up and do it privately and with LOTS of class, is what I say.

Aside from the proposal, I like this couple. I hope they make it to the alter and through wedded bliss drama free. I really do, they look good together.

Word On The Tweet!

@kevkevv Kick Ass & Stardust director Matthew Vaughn is confirmed to direct X-Men: First Class.. comes out June 3rd 2011. The film will be epic now!

@NecoleBitchie Drake says he likes to study behavior patterns in women #ladiesdontfallforit

@ricky_martin Children are not born with prejudice, they learn it. Don't poison them with yours #stoprejudice

@TheEllenShow This adorable 5 year old boy singing Train is too cute not to share with y’all. http://su.pr/1TmO0g

@madnewsblog RT @XianLoves: PAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHA BNP British Nigerian Party http://www.facebook.com/BritishNigerianParty Almost as good as the #LibManDem

@fabsnetwork www.fabsnetwork.com the best social and business networking site in the world!!! #Thenextbigthing Are you on it??? RT RT RT

@iHateKatStacks HAHAHAHA Kat Stacks is in the Urban Dictionary http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=kat+stacks

@iHateKatStacks WHo wants me to post @BowWow story ?

@BowWow It was an honor to be in the presence of Wes Craven. I pray something good happens. #fingerscrossed

@MariahCarey Ok..I am VERY happy w/this new song me,@LTLline and BCox r writing right now..yaaaay! Possible Ustream tonite..keep U posted! LYM: )

@MariahCarey So last night's wedding vow renewal and small party was a SG..too many cameras(from close and far!)but it was beautiful. NC is the best: )

@LanceGross Huge smile on my face! That worked out great. #random

@derekaterry Glad that Pamela Anderson was kicked off of #dwts. #imjustsaying

@iHateKatStacks Wow is this nigga threating me to send TMZ a video of me giving head ? WRONG MOVE

@iHateKatStacks You have no tape of me shut the fuck up

@cnnbrk Pablo Picasso painting fetched $106.5 million at auction, a record for any single work of art http://on.cnn.com/dkfFkZ

@LanceGross DC come party with me this Saturday @ Station 9: http://twitpic.com/1l0mhd : Buy Your Tix Now: http://tiny.cc/lancegross

@delightfuldiva "Black people are the only people in the world that can fu$k up a Surprise party" - Gina Yashere @lyneka @feezy9 @EGdaGod @bennsu

@iHateKatStacks Check out @BowWow Part 2 http://katstacks.com/?page_id=579

@studiopixie RT @angelonfire Instead of going to bed tonight thinking about all your troubles. Try going to bed thinking about all your blessings.

@Mia_queen24 @BowWow wow i knew u were gay, i can see it in ur eyes @ihatekatstacks has exposed u. faggot i lost respect for u, not buyin ur music again

@derekaterry This show is crazy!!!!! #GLEE

@StarStatus561 Wow @Ihatekatstacks just exposed @Bowwow sooooo bad. Go to katstacks.com and read bowwow part 2. Wow! She a bold bitch!

@StarLITpr Starting young aint they? http://twitpic.com/1l38m8

@MariahCarey New pic of MC in the studio with JD and Bryan-Michael Cox working on some new music for a new Mariah album! (MC.co http://twitpic.com/1l3q72

@NickCannon At Time's 100 most influential people in the world dinner. Nice people but I miss my wife!

Words of Wisdom or Just Straight Bullshit Advice?

I've followed Tyrese twice on Twitter, I’ve also un-followed Tyrese twice. The last and final time was yesterday. The reason I followed him a second time was because people were re-tweeting [RT] some things he said which made sense. So I thought , "why not." When I followed him again I realised they were only RT the good stuff, the rest of the other crap filled my timeline, and I didn't have the time to be getting mad over the dumb stuff.

Now I’m not saying you have to have a PhD, letters after your name, or be a preacher in order to invoke some knowledge to the people, but people please don’t let it get to your damn heads that you now think this is some kind of career that pays in Twitter followers. I've noticed some people famous and non-famous try so hard to sound deep, that they come across as real dumb at times.

I have seen over the past few days tweets along the lines of…and I’m paraphrasing here.

“When you find love, hold on to it. Don’t throw it away. Fight for your love. Don’t give up on love no matter what.” Yadda, yadda, yadda.

I am a firm believer in love. Yes even when the ish hits the fan. I have to believe in love. God is love, and if I didn’t believe then hell….I guess I’d be destined for just that…Hell. Walking around void of emotion doing and saying God knows what.

The gist of the tweet I got from Tyrese pretty much seemed like a 'pre-excuse' for men, but aimed it at women. As if to say, "OK men make mistakes, but don't throw your love away because of it. Fight for it." Nah ah! I was too through after that. I was not about to read that mess and have it permeate my beloved brain cells.

Be careful of the advice you give to, and take from others. Just because your mama, papa or grandmother told you so, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s something you have to live by or that even applies to you. Advice is just that. Advice. You can take it, or you can leave it. Some of our older relatives are very wise, but some of them are twittering old fools too and have grown up in different times. Saying that though, some things told to us remain the same and relevant no matter what time we live in. 

A lot of old school family members put up with some serious BS from their husbands back in the day and stayed around. Good for the grandmas and the aunties out there. I don't give a damn what you tell me, some of those old folks sleeping in separate beds because "he snores too loud"...please. Grandpa is on punishment and STILL paying for some shit he did in 1952. You put up with it, stayed, wish you hadn't, couldn't move on, and are still mad as hell! Oh I am not in the ‘Stand By Your Man’ team of women who will put up with that kind of mess. It’s damaging, and quite frankly I want a happy and content life where I'm not putting up with stuff because it's easy and comfortable and my husband is sleeping in the next room and Lord knows who else.

As much as I believe in love Mr Tyrese Gibson, there is no way in hell I am holding on to something that doesn’t benefit me in my life, in any way shape or form. Maybe this is why some folks should leave the wisdom to the likes of Rev Run who I feel keeps it more real. He’s under the more realistic notion of:

“Yes loving someone is the right thing to do, but if you see warning signs and alarm bells ringing, get out. You can love someone from a distance, you don’t have to be with them to love them, love yourself more.” He didn’t actually say that verbatim, I paraphrased yet again. Some things the Rev says just flies over my head or doesn't apply to me. A lot of it does apply to me, but I feel he gives his advice more out of love, than Tyrese who I feel does it more for the attention he gets. 

Please do not be under the influence [especially to the ladies] that you’re only going to find love just ONCE in your lifetime, therefore stick around with one to be abused, hurt and humiliated time and time again. Stop calling every dude that says "I Love You" your damn soul mate. You are putting limitations on your expectations a lot of the times when doing that. [I will blog about that tomorrow] If he doesn’t act right, can’t stay faithful, can’t keep his hands off you [in the abusive sense], or speaks ill of you to your face and behind your back, leave him because that isn’t healthy, respectful or loving. If you stay, well then hey….good luck with that, and please remove your friends that you have on speed dial who have heard it all before. Chances are they are tired of your whining, crying and sob stories relating to this man. YOU are the female that gets talked about when the women who have their shit together meet up for lunch and talk about. You'll also get talked about on forums, blogs, Twitter, Facebook, e-mails and BBM conversations for being the foolish one that complains and stays. 

You need men that are going to wipe away the tears after a bad day, not the ones that create the tears and the bad days. If you are crying because of him, it should be because he surprised you, told you how he lovingly feels about you or got down on one knee and proposed to your ass!

If some celebrities who were up there in the spotlight, gave more advice about teaching their followers to love themselves truly and first and foremost, maybe some women would make better decisions when it comes to sticking with and putting up with crap.

It's OK to be in love. It's NOT OK to be a STUPID FOOL in love.

Listen to yourself, you may not be Rev Run or Tyrese, but you may surprise yourself when that little voice inside your head speaks to you. Don’t always be too quick to jump onto the back of what someone else says, just because they may be someone of some status.

They aren’t always right, and you aren’t always wrong.

"You Complete Me"

Tom Cruise, or more so Tom Cruise's people in this instance, asked his Scientology followers on Twitter what were our favourite Tom Cruise 'movie magic' moments. 

Judging by this pretty fantastic intro on his own website, there have been quite a lot of memorable moments that I actually forgot about.

...but this one will FOREVER and ALWAYS be mine.

We Demand! Support Us and Vocal Slender From 'Welcome To Lagos'

As I type this on the 3rd day the supporter count stands at 249. Thank You! 

But we need more!

You DON'T have to be Black and you don't have to be British to support this. 

The BBC show it's programmes around the world, so this is not just a UK thing. 

1. Join and support the Facebook Campaign http://www.facebook.com/WeDemand
2. Buy Vocal Slender's music on iTunes and support his Myspace page.
3. Link our campaign to your Blog or your Facebook Status.
4. Re-Tweet on Twitter [and if you can fit it in] add #wedemand to your tweet.

ALL OF THOSE THINGS YOU CAN DO WHILST SITTING ON YOUR ARSE!

Vocal Slender works and lives on a rubbish dump in Lagos, Nigeria. He sorted through rubbish to sell to raise money for the studio time and to get pictures taken for his album. If that isn't a hard-working and determined brotha, then I don't know what is.

His track 'Owo Yapa' was featured in the BBC2 documentary 'Welcome To Lagos.' I heard through the Twitter grapevine that the BBC put his MySpace page together. Whether that is true or not I do not know. What I do know is after watching 'Welcome To Lagos' I wanted to buy Vocal Slender's track and the BBC didn't even put anything at the end of the programme to tell the viewers where we could buy it to support Vocal Slender. Don't even make me turn into a conspiracy theorist. So what, it's OK to show these people down and out, but have the means for the British public to help them and they can't even tell us how? You see how they stay? It's word of mouth tha

His music is available on iTunes and he has a MySpace page set up. It says he's currently unsigned, but something tells me he will be signed pretty soon.

Our campaign is NOT to get programmes like 'Welcome To Lagos' banned, we UNDERSTAND the importance of telling a variety of stories where it comes to the depiction of black people and Africa as a continent. We are demanding a balance of programmes to be shown where it comes to Africa as a people.


I love this tune...and as I type it's downloading on iTunes.

Gross! I Think You're Smellin' Yourself A Lil Too Much Lance!

These types of photos don't do a damn thing for me really. For some of you it may just brighten up your day. A newly single Lance Gross who recently split from America's Next Top Model winner Eva Pigford tweeted a semi-nude body pic for you ladies.....next to a toilet!

Anyone else tired of men [regular dudes & celebrities] taking pics of themselves in the damn bathroom like this? It's just old and boring to me now.

Monica's Killer Heels!

Whether Monica bought them or was just trying them on in the store, I have no idea. She tweeted the Dsquared killer heels to her Twitter followers. What do you think?

4,3,2,1....Noel Clarke Is Back! Are You Ready?

Thanks to a @kevkevv on Twitter last week he mentioned the new movie which again has been written, produced and directed by Noel Clarke. Talk about a triple threat!

I have blogged about Noel Clarke before as you can see here. I am a fan of his work and have even got my parents [aged 60 and 76] watching and loving his movies. So if I say 'Noel Clarke' my mum knows exactly who I'm talking about.

I watched the trailer last week [only once mind you] and thought, "OK Noel, where are you going with these movies? Is it going to be the same sort of thing as Kidulthood and Adulthood all over again?" Even though those were my thoughts, I hadevery intention when it hits UK cinemas to go and see it. As far as I know there is no one in the UK as a black filmaker on Noel's level...and I must add he's also an Orange Rising Star BAFTA award winner too. Voted for by the public, and yes I did vote for him...with a quickness!

As someone who says what's on their mind I tweeted a 'mini thought' about the movie this morning and tagged Noel into it. I wasn't expecting a response, but received one anyway, which I greatly appreciate.

'the beginning of change.....' I wonder what that is all about? Whatever it is sounds good.

Speaking of change; last week it was reported that Icon has struck a first-look deal with Noel Clarke and his  production company Unstoppable Entertainment. You can read all about it here. Major Congratulations. I love it when black people are on a road to success and constantly striving. It definitely keeps me inspired.

Noel tweeted 'IF' I watch it. Oh trust me Noel I will be watching. When I support I support even if I'm not that keen on something I'll give it a chance. 

Aside from the usual Hollywood Blockbusters like Iron Man and Transformers, I actually get excited hearing that Noel is working on another film on this level where his stamp is all over it. To be honest his movies have a raw, dark, gritty feel to them, but he isn't just putting out movies with the characters 'acting bad mind' for the sake of it. There is a message in his films, and you actually get to feel something for the characters whether you love them or hate them, and even the ones you're supposed to hate you can't help but love. 

As a Londoner I can relate [to a degree of course]. The language and dialect is what you hear out there in the streets and the things going on in his movies are also going on out there...on the streets. I personally don't live it, but know of some who do/have done. I love the fact he doesn't tone it down, and I think that is also key to the fan base that Noel has and will continue to have.  

As well as Noel himself, other stars of the movie include, Tamsin Egerton, UK Grime artist Bashy, Adam Deacon, Shanika Warren-Markland, Eve [yes the rapper], and former Eastender and Bionic Woman Michelle Ryan.

I can be 'hand on heart honest' and say I definitely enjoyed watching the trailer the second time around and will be making it for the 1st day release. First weekend attendance figures for movies are important people, so make yours count! 

As well as Sex & The City 2 and Iron Man 2, I can add 4,3,2,1 to the mini-list of movies I'm looking forward to this summer, and which intend to see on release day. And If the soundtrack is as good as the 'On Dis Ting' instrumental alone, I'll also be getting that for the ipod also.

Official Movie Website

Noel Clarke On Twitter

4,3,2,1 The Movie on Twitter

You Tube Channel

4,3,2,1, on Facebook

4,3,2,1 is released in the UK on June 2nd