As I type this I'm on
mariahdaily.com looking at last night's pics of Mariah and Nick on the red carpet., my Blackberry is on shuffle and on pops Percy Sledge - When A Man Loves A Woman. No better time than to write this blog post me thinks.
Nick Cannon gets so much slack for being Mr Mariah Carey. Luckily he's a man in his own right who rather than gets insecure about being in a relationship where his wife is more successful and earns more money, he goes out and creates more TV shows, hops on a plane to boost more business in China, puts more movies out, becomes the CEO of Teen Nick, gets more TV work on America's Got Talent, signs new artists, radio host as of tomorrow on NY's 92.3 NOW FM (WXRK-FM), Lord knows what else, and still has time to accompany his beautiful wife down the red carpet at the Golden Globe awards and hold the umbrella over her head whilst the paparazzi takes pictures of her in the rain. And to think Elin Woods was pregnant with Tiger's child and he was off screwing other women, when he should have been by her side holding umbrellas up over her head, rubbing her belly and damn knows what else.
I follow Nick and Mariah on Twitter and the man will go without sleep to catch the red eye flight from LA to New York just to be with Mariah on a TV appearance, then hop back to LA to fulfil his contractual work duties. Mariah will do the same, sit and stay in the DJ booth whilst Nick is working in a club in Vegas or Miami.
It seems that a man doing what a man should and being constantly attentive to his wife is just too much for some people to take or even comprehend. When you're married to your soul mate I don't think holding and guiding your woman to and from the car in 5 inch heels, holding her hand every time you step out and holding an umbrella over her head is too much. What on earth is happening to love and romance in the heads of some people in 2010? You don't like PDA's fine, but he's no more a butler to Mariah than a mother is a maid to her children. You do what you're supposed to do when you take on the role as wife, husband, mother, and father. Some on Twitter last night referred to Nick as Mariah's personal Fonzworth Bentley. I'm sorry I just saw him being an attentive husband to his wife. Funny how the same women will be all up in arms if a man didn't hold the door open for them, or walked off to the car leaving you standing under some shelter whilst it poured down with rain. If Nick had left Mariah standing there getting soaked, the same people would be talking about it's time for her to find a new man. I swear some brothas can't win for trying!
I love men like Nick Cannon I really do. He knows exactly what is being said about him, he makes reference to it that he knows and STILL continues to love both Mariah privately and publicly. I guess it's all manly to talk about how good you are in bed and how many hoes you slept with last night. Please give me the Tevin Campbell days back when a brotha was singing about being ready to love you, wanting to talk to you, getting to know you and what your name is. Or when Aaron Hall was wailing for 6 minutes and 22 seconds about how much he missed you. I don't want to hear about any foolishness that you invented sex, or what size are your breasts and booty cause I just wanna hit it right now. You me and my homies.
Physical support is just as important as emotional support. If I'm feeling a little wobbly in my 4.75 inch heels then yes I'd love for my man to hold to my hand to keep me steady. If it's raining, for him to do whatever he can to stop me from getting wet. Or if I'm sick to look after me till I'm better and vice versa. I want to be steady both physically and emotionally with the man I love, not be with a part-time asshole who's not man enough to show me affection in public and has the time to worry what everyone else is thinking. Make it a 24/7/365 thing.
I said it on twitter last night and I'll say it again. "I'd rather have a Nick Cannon over a Tiger Woods any day!" To a lot of people Nick is corny *raises hand* "I'll take corny over a disrespecting thug please"
Nick and other men like you, continue to hold that umbrella over her head, hold her hand and keep her steady, in every single way possible. It's the little things in a love life that keep it happy. Women need to learn to appreciate these things in men too. Mariah doesn't treat Nick like a lap dog because she's Mariah Carey, she's simply allowing Nick to be a man and care for her and for her not to be Miss Independent screaming "I GOT THIS" every damn minute. I'm sure Mariah can open a car door herself, but ever thought (a) Nick loves doing it for her and (b) she too loves him doing it for her? Ladies, it's not all about what he can BUY you and when you get it, any asshole with enough credit can do that. Assholes don't rub your back, feet and neck, run you a bath, hold an umbrella over your head for you and continue to do it out of the love and admiration they have for you. If it's for ulterior motives, in time it will stop. Only a real genuine man can keep it up. When the money runs out and all you have is each other, kisses and cuddles between the two of you are the best gift ever! And they don't cost a thing.
When A Man Loves A Woman - Percy Sledge
When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothing else
He'll trade the world
For the good thing he's found
If she's bad he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Tryin' to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way it ought to be
Well, this man loves a woman
I gave you everything I had
Tryin' to hold on to your precious love
Baby, please don't treat me bad
When a man loves a woman
Down deep in his soul
She can bring him such misery
If she plays him for a fool
He's the last one to know
Lovin' eyes can't ever see
When a man loves a woman
He can do no wrong
He can never own some other girl
Yes when a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels
'Cause baby, baby, baby, you're my world
When a man loves a woman.....